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For me start of the new year was not good. I celebrated my new year alone in my house in front of TV while my hubby was with his parents. We had an argument 2 days before 31st. that is 29th. After that he is just not talking to me. He keeps his cell phone switch off. Yesterday, I kept a card on his bed he didnt bother to look at it.I really cant understand why he behaves like this. It happens everytime, whenever he goes to his parents place alone, he always come back and fight with me on some or other things. If I say that you see whatever is shown to you or you say their words, he gets angry. He is a nice guy except some things which is acceptable as nobody is perfect. He loves me , cares for me but whenever his family is around he just forgets me like anything. Suddenly his priority becomes his family. I am no where in the picture.

Today the situation is very bad, everybody in his family thinks that I keep fighting with him. I do agree that I am a short tempered person and I am seriously working on it. But to my surprise, they create an issue over each and every small things sometime to I just surprised to know a little thing can become an issue. At time time I am just not able to decide should I laugh or should I cry? For them, love is measured by money. Even money is becoming a major concern between us. He is a spendthreft while I am not. He wants me to spend like him and then gives the logic, I have some saving for the long run while you dont have. I have tried making him understand that certain things can be shared and certain things can not?. If I act as he says he is very happy but he gets very irritated If I have my say. Till today I never asked him once ke \";where your money has gone?\"; but in that day arguements, He was like \";I want your bank statements.\"; why the hell I should give my statements to him? when I havent asked him even once?

One more thing which is bothering me that off late, he is not bothered about me. When I asked him about this, his words were\"; If you want me to take care of you, act like a woman dont act like a man\"; I just cant understand in what way I am acting like a man? I am not acting intenionally , whatever way I am acting is my normal behaviour. Yesterday he had returned from his parents place, I asked quietly, is he in a mood to talk. He angrily said \";NO\";. Now if he doesnt talk to him, in what way we can reach a middle path. Let me tell you, I am a practical person while he is more of idealistic. I can never be an idealistic person. I do agree that otherway is also not possible. Why he is not ready to understand me? What I can do so that everything becomes normal once again. I miss my old happy days and pray to GOD that they will come back again very soon. Please advice, what I can do?


kshama replied. hi
you hv not mentioned whether u r working & if u r having any children. men like to rule women they cannot see their wife being independent or having their own way.pls donot bow down to him if u listen to his wimps & fancy u will hv to do so ur whole life.b rational do things that r good for your family. if he sulks after he comes back from his mothers house then i suggest u ignore him totally do not butter him always he will come after u if u do not go after him.it will take time b patient.