Planning a Baby  Discussion Forum

Dear Archie
thanks for the support. I do have family problems like in-laws problems...mainly because i din't get conceived...it worries me alot...i 'm already delaying this..and want to get pregnant as soon as possible and get a job also in the near future in order safeguard my position this married family.

I could not take my pregnancy test mainly because we are in sil home and i'm not close with her...i din't want anyone to know that i'm pregnant before i confirm it and wanted to check with the doc for healthy pregnancy too. i din't think that i will be held in her home for such a long time.
I'm trying to tell slokas and keep peace in mind...still could u tell me ways to have more peace...because if its pregnancy i just want it to be very healthy baby and i'm very much afraid that it should be healthy and without any problems...
About its symptoms:
i told that i don't have any severe pregnancy symptoms like vomiting, faintings...etc
I have a bitter taste in my mouth always, feel hungry very much, my breasts are swollen very much and become heavy after my periods date, slight headaches and tiredness.
regarding the questions archie asks:
1. feel like periods coming but not happening.
2. my urination freuency has increased..because i drink more water because if i'm pregnant i want it to be healthy.
3. i have a drop of discharge daily( before i use to have more)..
4. no difficulty in breathing.
5. breasts are swollen.
6. since in sil(sister-in-law) home..there r no mood swings.
My only doubt is that there is no major changes in my body...especially in stomach..there is a mild pain and little bloating in the stomach...so don't know whether i'm pregnant or not.
worried about it...
if archie and priya and others could support my problems..i would be thankful...and i'm thinking of taking the pregnancy test...without knowing to anyone...soon...
thanks
regards
bar. archie replied. Dear Bar,
Sorry to note all troubles and seem like you have no issues with husband, that's good side. This will make you sail pregnancy boat at an ease.

After judging your response I feel mixed although little bit high chances of pregnancy. Trust me, I have no way to examine you so no way to tell if you are pregnant.
Swollen breast and feeling a little bloated is good sign.
Vaginal discharge put me in confusion.
I know generally in Winter urination frequency increases and a little tricky to judge on that symptom.

I consider your case as good enough to confirm pregnancy. Taking test won't take much of time. Besides that's something you can do in private while in restroom, even in restaurant or some public restroom if you are not comfortable at SIL's place. My concern however is how will you keep your good news to yourself and hide it from husband in case you have positive test!

Hang in there for another 3-4 days till you return to your home and take test, that's best time and you can enjoy the moment in case your test is positive.

Keeping without stress is most important. Stress can lead to fetal distress and that's detrimental to fetus, even if the pregnancy was healthy and very promising stress can add adverse effect, so try and help yourself by keeping stress out of you. I don't know you personally so difficult to tell what you could do to avoid stress.
Listen to music, keep occupied in things, go to movie and/or get involved in reading stuff.

Archie