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Hi, My 3 1/2 years old kid suddenly starts misbehaving with us. (myself, my husband, my maid). He is one of the best child in school and never misbehaves. For eg. if we want to watch some serial on TV he starts screeming and shouting to watch cartoon at that time only, it may be because he wants our attention but how to control him ? how to make him understand ? we do switch off our TV to give him attention but this activity repeats. Secondly, sometimes he refuses to go to school without any reason and we are working parents we cant fulfil his this wish. Although he understand this but still many a times creates the fuss. I understand these are normal things in kids, but pls. advise how to handle such situation like if there is very less time to get ready and he is not interested to go to school. Thirdly, whenever any visitor will come our place he starts misbehaving esp. if someone unknown it leads us to a very embarrassing sitution in front of others. He gets angry very fast, suppose if he is making blocks and if his building breaks he starts throwing things. If i try to punnish him, its not possible coz' he doesnt listen at all. he is not scared of me or my husband. I dont know how to control him ! can any one pls. help. abc replied. Your son is a typical 3 year old, he knows what he wants and how to get it. Kids are very manipulative, they know that we finally give in. This makes them more stronger next time. It is we who should control our child and not him. So in any case you have to be firm and consistent with him. You yourself have to take the reigns in ur hand. If he screams when you r watching tv, tell him that he cannot watch cartoon for another 2 hours as a punishment.Tell him at night that if he gets fussy about going to school the next morning , then he loses some privilege like watching tv or a favourite candy, or something that he enjoys most.And still if he does it, then be consistent and dont waive the punishment. Your boy will soon realise that his tactics r no longer rewarded.He will be in your control.About misbehaving in front of guests, tell him immediately that you will announce his punishment later in the day and then after they r gone dont forget to mete out some punishment, Sometimes time out works too, like nobody talks to him for ten whole minutes. But after 10 minutes give him a hug and all your love. Also remember to praise him always for good behaviour and tell him how much happy it makes you.All the Best! manasa replied. hi annu,
i can understand ur situation. u said he started misbehaving suddenly these days and not intretsed to go to school sometimes.try ti knoe from him whats wrong with him . imean does anybosy beat/shout at him in school.sometimes even avan driver yells at them also they dont show intrest.this happend with my kid. i spoke to driver and my kid and the matter was ok ofcourse.first i recoomend u to go thru the book\" dog trainer's guide t0 parenting\" .though the name sounds strange its really a nice book and best book i can say i ecer read on parenting.i saw change in my kid's behaviour after i started implementing techniques mentioned in that book.ofcourse the methods of implementing may differ from kid to kid as all kids are not alike.but priciples(techniques) are same.be firm with him.never allow ur child to outsmart u.though its difficult in initial days(being firm with him)it really works.what i will do if my kid shows tantrums is i will hide his precious toys and tell him that the garbage collector has come and took away them as he is not sleeping on time.then he sleeps preperly on time.then i will return by nextday mroning saying that he returned them.u can implement ur own methods for ur kid. all the best.