Planning a Baby  Discussion Forum

hi, sonia!!
it feels good to read ur mails!!
hey, im really surprized!! where did u hear bout ladies who get their periods 2-3 months after getting preg?? it must be a myth!! ive known a friend who got to know bout her preg when she had completed 2.5 months of preg. but tat was coz she gets her periods alternate months!! her cycle was like that. how can one have periods while being pregnant??!! u know wot, its really good that ur periods are so regular..tat way ul know when ur fertile period is when u r with ur hubby! my periods vary from 25-28 days. so sometimes get delayed by two days from the date expected. and i get really hopeful during those days...and then 'thudd' i drop down in a sec when i get my menses. last time i got them when my BIL was leaving. i really wept a lot. my vacation really came to a sudden halt!! we were having such a great time together..i was feeling happy from inside..so i was hopeful..'this is it' i thought!! but it wasnt....
whoz ur new dr? dr pai? so u r going alone to the dr? wish i could come with u...just write all ur doubts on paper when ur r calm and take it with u. i too used to go blank on my visits after m/c. but i could easily read those questions. u can also write down the replies, just in case u forget again.
wot my doc (shez just a general physician) exactly said was,'normally, ahm...at ur age...(then she glanced at the form i had filled)...people may take even 1 year to conceive...but...aaaa....most of the people conceive earlier...mmm...so u can visit a gynec if u dont conceive till 6 months...apparently nothing seems abnormal..given the fact that uve conceived once...ok?'
u dont know americans...they never give a clear reply to anything and do a lot of mmmm's and aaaam's when they do reply. hope u remember that im 26 yrs old and the cause of my first m/c is still unexplained...
probably, ur SIL doesnt understand tat she shouldnt discuss bout her baby in front of u..but maybe its her 1st one...and maybe bcoz she wants u to feel wot she is feeling, she acts tat way..
u r such a close relative...and probably her best friend too...
wish u all the best for ur treatment, sonia!! just keep ur cool..dont freak out!! ok?
love,
pari. sonia replied. Dear pari,

hope u r doing fine!!yeh my mom in law herself says that when she was pr with my youngest BIL she got her periods till 4 months. also one of my friends was telling that a lady in her bldg got her periods till 5 mths. wierd isnt it...i too didnt beleive it.but those must be rare cases...a lucky few.
i understand how u feel when u get ur menses. pari no matter how hard we try not to think..but every time end up hoping that this may be theeee month. but no god has some other plans .it always ends up in disappointment.hurt and agony...atleast for me.
Ya pari i will b seeing dr. pai. i hope he brings some good luck to me. i will never forget his ahesan if i get positive result with him . i will be going alone to see him. my mom and sister both insist to come along. but i wont tell them that im going. i want to go alone. im still putting my brave face in frnt of my family. I had posted query for aarchie...but she hasnt answered maybe she is busy. ya what u say is right i will write all questions on paper.
regardind my sil i dont want to feel what she is feeling. that makes me jealous.because she is prgnant and im not. maybe im selfish, selcentered... but no i cant bear it anymore. if it would be a friebd it was a different thing. i dont feel jealous about them. but in this case i dont know..my reaction is absurd.ok pari bye. take care and do write. everything will be fine for u too. dont take tension . relax and enjoy life with ur hubby.
love sonia