Planning a Baby  Discussion Forum

hi Pari , how r u ? im in pits man. Today is monday morning. i woke up and im crying. whenever im in the house alone i keep crying. I dont understand whats wrong with me.

I feel i cant wait ti go with the treatment till April or May. I want it done now. but i have no way ....my hubby cant come back so soon.

i really dont understand what to do.

sorry pari to bother u. Thanks for reading. i dont mean to trouble u every now and thaen, sorry once again

sonia pari replied. i am very much here, sonia! i just posted a mail to ur last reply. (under 'for sonia' dated 10/12/2004).
i got really worried when i saw ur name in front of the sad icon on the main list.
i check this board almost everyday. so u can post me anything anytime u like!
i know why u cry all the time. its because ur loneliness reminds u of the the baby u want to have. its the same for me. i thought u told me u will start trying from jan...y did u postpone ur plans?
when i had m/c last oct. doc gave me 3-6 months waiting period. i decided to wait for 6 months coz i wasnt prepared for another emotional set back (just in case i miscarried again). i could have started trying from jan,2004 but i waited till april,2004. in the meantime we bought a house, so i thought i would wait till we shift bcoz of the financial probs and also shifting strain etc. we were expected to shift before april. but due to delays by the builder we could only shift in june! and since now we were in apartments i was constantly bugged by my new friends to have a baby and all! so u can imagine my situation. we were planning to come to usa..and i decided i wouldnt wait any further. so i talked to my doc and she said she wont advise air travel during the first 3 months! so either we could postpone our plans for having a baby till we got to usa or we could postpone the plans of coming to usa till we have a baby. my husband chose the first option coz we were badly in need of money! i felt exactly how u feel rite now! really helpless! i wept a lot..and one day before that, my frnd had given birth to a baby. i didnt even go to see her! u already know the reason! if i had not had that m/c, i wouldnt mind waiting for 1 year more. but that episode simply ruined my life and the good times i could have had with my husband. tears roll down my eyes even when i see the picture of a new born or even when i see new born shoes in a departmental store!! ya...true..god really gave me a lot!;-)
even after coming here initially i used to cry all the time. but not now. i go around for walks..or surf the net..or read. my suggestion is u give more time to ur hobbies...the things tat u like doing most. and please join ur husband on ship if ur treatment is not in progress rite now. that will give u a change of environment.
are you working? i guess u are. being independent helps, trust me, if u had been a housewife, ur life could be worse!(u can know that from my experience). i like being with friends but i visit only those friends who dont bug me bout having a family and all. please avoid such people AT ALL COSTS!
they are the most depressing things on this earth!
u didnt bother me at all! have hope and keep me informed bout ur welfare. once u start trying, things will get better. (trust me)
love,
pari.