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A big Hello to all the working mothers out there.
I have a 14 month old son. I am a Project Manager in a software company and have just returned to work.My son is left in the care of a maid and my Father-in-law. I was with the maid for two months for my son to get accustomed to her.
In the evening when I return my son comes to me..but after sometime he plays and tends to go more to my Father-in-law. At that point of time I feel like he is punishing for not being there for him during the day. I feel so guilty..like I am abandoning him.I feel that he will forget that I am his mother.

I know a lot of the working mothers may have encountered similar feelings.Please I am looking to you' ll to give me some inputs. Should I feel guilty ..will my son forget me?

When I mention this to my husband he laughs it off.This is my second day at work and I have been told that I will have to travel for 4 days out of India. The minute I knew that I went to the washroom and cried because I can' t bear the thought of staying away from my son for even a day.
Please let me know what I should do..I am thinking of quitting my job. I know everyone at home will think I am foolish for getting this emotional.But only I know what is going on inside of me.
Tripti replied. hi smita,

I am also working and having 9month old at home..i can very well relate to your problem...don' t worry sweetie..he can never forget you..probably by the time u reaches home u must be tired and as kid he would always be energetic...so may be he likes to continue the game with his father in law...and again don' t be impulsive in deciding ..that too on second day...u can think of leaving job...if
1. he is not getting proper attention when u r not around
2. he is not having proper nutirion/food
3. he need you for any medical reasosn...

quitting job for emotional reason would not do any justice to your conscience ...incase u can afford to not get regretful for your decision later u can go for it. mother to be replied. Smita, if you can financially afford it, why dont you quit your job until your son goes to nursery ? This time will never come again and honestly money will not compensate for you to feel stressed. Plus on top, if you are feeling stressed, you will not be able to concentrate on work. Husbands will never understand you feeling and I do not think you are being too emotional. Good luck in your decision.