Parents of Preschoolers  Discussion Forum

Hello everybody,
My daughter is about 2years and three months old.
She started going to her preschool 2 months back.
There are some improvemnts in her like she is trying to become more independent and talks in sentences but at the same time she is becoming stubborn and commanding. She is not listening to whatever we say. When we don't listen to her, she starts crying. She started hitting us. At school, her teacher says she is doing fine. Is there any reason for her behavior. We, myself and my husband are wondering about our decision of putting her in the preschool was right or not? Any suggestions? s replied. you daughter is 2 years and three months and she is already goignto preschool i wonder why
the legal age for a child to attend to school is 5 and preschools can be started when he/she is around four a child needs spend more time with parents home schooling is the best and mothers are the first and best teacher unless your working and you have no choice but I recommend youto take her out of school and enjoy being with her she is goign to be a wonderful student under your su[pervision and learn lot better that is if your not a working women if you are worried about her socialising then you should be attending mommy and me clubs where they get to interact other kids of thier aga and you get to meet more moms the organiser will have lots of group or individual activities for the kids and moms that your child needs rememebr the first five years are the base of their personility development and it will remain through out their life it will never change and what you child is learnign from schoolis definitly no possitive and why you want her to be in school sheis just 2 .get her involved in activities like painting drawing puppets shows story telling and youcan all do this at home if you not intereste din jopining mommy and me clubs then you cn organise your own clubs with your friends who have kids almost the same age one a week or twice a week at your place or take turns.

Ritu Narendra Singh replied. Hello everybody,
My daughter will complete 3 years on 15-march-03 . i have seen drastic changes in my daughter from last 2-3 months, as she going to playschool from last 9 months. she has become stuburn and start hitting , i am failed to understand why this is happening , in school also from last 4-5 days is not listening to her teacher. after reading your messages, i think it is a natural change that comes around this age group.
wafia replied. I have the same prob. My daughter too now 22months has been put in day care centre.What I realised is that in the centre she is with many children around her so she has a got another child or another immediate person to take care of her. In our house she being the only daughter gets bored all the time we feel bored to play with her. So I found out a soln I play with her during weekends, make her eat her food on her own, play colouring the book with her give her tub bath so that she enjoys playing with her toys in the tub This way she gets engaged. then I give her bowls to play with she puts them one on top of the other give her some grub(like bhel, or chanas to play with) which she puts equally in each bowl. I keep her busy throughout and talk to her make her understand why no and why yes. This way she feels important and feels that I am attending to her and she stopped being stubborn and cranky.
Try anything like this. This is bcoz in school she have lots to see in other children and lots of activities go on so the child feels lost at home. This is what I felt.
Dont think that you simply put her to school think that your child wants activities and start comparing your home environment with the school environment and try to make her busy.
I hope this helps.
Wafia BR replied. I have the same problem with my daughter. She started going to pre-school from Sept'02 and acts same as your daughter. As per her doctor, this might happen due to language barrier and communication problem with other kids. My daughter speaks Bengali at home, so as an advice from her doc, we started to speak in broken english so she can understand and feel comfortable. I hope this helps and we can be less worried and she changes her pattern.