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my son i1 yr old. i have started leaving him in a daycare center since last one week. he cries a lot. everytime when i leave him and come, he howls looking at me and i feel miserable till i go to pick him. the moment he sees me back ,he sobs and cries and clings to me. i dont know what to do? i have been at home for past one yr. i cannot sit at home and forget abt my career. at the same time i cant be unjust to my baby. the creche is very good but then what do i do? Tritpi replied. hi..
my baby is 9 month old...i joined back when she was 5 month old..initially my parents were there to look after her..and now my in-laws are staying at home...i am planning to put her in day care once she grows till 1.5 yr...or may be sooner...what do u advice..i mean..i don' t want to put at home because that way entire day she ll keep watching TV as they are strict in terms of tidiness of home and with their routine...i feel at home they mostly put her on walkers ... i am not sure which would be better ..pls advice

Tripti rachna replied. I think most of us who have done this have experienced this at some stage at the other. The trick to check is how he is doing when you come back to pick him up, is still crying or is he happily playing away. Also when you leave, leave him with some activity or toy to continue it & make the moment as brief as possible instaed of waiting for him to stop & trying to console him.......

In the end he will surely settle down & be convinced you are doing this in his best interest only. He will come out much more sociable in future, good luck Archana replied. Hi,

Do not woory. I have been to similar experience. I also took a break for a year. It was initially very tough. It took him complete 2 weeks to get adjusted partially. He stopped crying after two weeks. Though he USED to be very tired, he never use to sleep whole day. He used to be crany in the evening because of THIS. I really had a hard time. I used to feel guilty and helpless and call my mother , sisters.
i used ti think he will never adjsut to the change. As for one year he was only seeing me all the time, was not used to strangers.....
But after a month and half he started sleeping in a day time, playing, eating.. playing and was happy.

Now he is 2 yr and still goes to the same place. He doesnot cry when i leave him. But comes running and leaving everything when I go to pick him up:-)).

If my son can adjust and be happy,,your sone will too get adjusted. So don't worry!!!
hh replied. Hi jolly

I hv also expirenced a similar situation just 2 months back...

i started working again when my baby was only 5 months and whole day he was with maid at home.... there was no prob ... but from the age og 11 months onwards he has satreted feeling that mummy is going... so little crying and but but in a min a so he was again comfortable with my maid...

But suddently my maid left when my baby was abtt turn 1 yr (just 2 months back end of nov)...
so i had to put my baby in creche where others childern were also there of same age grp....
than he has also behave in similar manner as what u are expering it now a days... howling, crying and even in the mor if he sees us (me or my hubby )carrying his creche wala bag that start crying ..... not ready to sit in car in mor.... bec than mumma will drop him in a creche.. and eve again cring and huging

BUT, now after 2 months there is some change in his behaviour..... he has started recognising those aaya's and van.... now he doesn't cry after seeing van ... so now situation has improved bec he has also somehow understood that it is his routine now....

And, may be yes when he will grow up than enjoy's more going there to meet children of his own age..

in beging i was also feeling guilty and was very worried abt wether creche aaya's wd be taing gd care of my baby or not... i was going there on and off on different times to see how they takes care of baby ... R they treating him well or not... is there anyother reason of his crying.. (bec he cann't speak na ...).. so i was making a surprise bists at creche since it is very close to my office... creche ppl also know that i can come anytm... so they very carefull that way

by the way joly if u are delhi based that pls give me the details of was creche... i will keep it for my records