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hello,
i've been a vivid reader of this site. i have a very quick question to ask all men- Is it pretty normal for a man to masturbate when the wife is still around and they have very healthy sex relations. and masturbate by looking at nude women on internet.
when a man is being satisfied by a woman, then why does he needs all this.
soumya uncontrollable replied. Hi this aditya,
actually my problem is similiar to soumya's hubby. I have read all the messages & let me tell u, all r correct coz its not that I dont love my wife so i go for M.., but its in the mind to have fantasy & enjoy. I,m feeling guilty also, my wife is very good & we have great sex but there are cases, when even after having sex with my wife, I indulged in having virtual sex once my wife slept,. Mind u its uncontrollable, I went to doc & explained all this, He suggested to take some medicines to reduce the sex drive, which i ignored coz it may harm my sex life with my wife also. Only after reading on this site i,m relexed that not only me but most of the guys are having this issue. But one advantage out of this is you need not go for extramarital affairs. So dear soumya u can be little happy also coz even if any oppertunity comes in way, person having virtual sex will not opt for that. That is my tested & practiced judgement. So this a small clarification. i,m not advocating that others also should do it, but it is uncontrollable like any other habits. hope it clarifies.

kams replied. just like we change food same idly dosa but when in hotel it gives diff taste like wise this give the taste in imagination thats it best of luck replied. Hey There soumya

It is not unknown for men to have a higher sex drive than women. Do not feel as though he has lost interest in you. However it is a matter of common curtosy that a man will encourage his wife to relieve his needs and it is rude of him to be acting as he is. A great many women would see this masterbation over internet pics an insult. Try talking to him and expressing your concerns
danu replied. see soumya, try to understand if you can. all male species have got this much aim in life that they should fuck every other female in their own species. be it dog, horse, pig, snakes etc. This is to keep the generations alive. Humans are no different in this behaviour. That is why males continuously produce millions of sperms.

Now what makes human male different from other animals is that he is \";social\";. He lives in society which has got rules and norms. And he has been doing this since thousands of years. The \";rule\"; of human society wants a male to \";get confined\"; in marriage. have only monogamous sex and not rape other women..etc etc.
The point is that these society rules cannot change the basic instints of a male. For example, if a society says that \";Dont eat outside food\"; or \";Dont visit places\"; they can be enforced but the urge to eat outside food cannot be curbed. right? I hope you are getting it.

Same is the case in case of man. Though in marriage he cannot fuck any other woman than his wife. Now the urge to do so is perfectly normal and if he does go outside the society laws and has sex with others then that is \";immoral\";. So he has found such byways to satisfy himself.

Saying so, I would like you to appreciate your husband for his restrain and commitment towards you. And feel proud that he is a perfect male because he has the desire for sex alive and kicking (I am sure you wounldnt like to live with a impotent !) Also feel proud for such a committed gentleman in your life. (You wouldnt have known if he gets satisfied outside) tanu replied. test friendo replied. yes, it is normal, physically. but mentally it could be lack of interest in his wife sexually