hey guys! how is everyone? i am ok, really swamped with housework and totcare now. at this point i am home alone with my 3 yr old who is getting extremely resentful of the future arrival. he can make out from my shape that something is going on, plus he feels the baby kicking. so, he basically tries to frustrate me by doubling on mischief. does anybody have any tips on how to deal with this sibling rivalry thing? my son is v.possessive of me, so it sort becomes worse. he goes to school for half a day, i am seriously thinking of putting him in full day boarding!!!! also doesn't help that i am tired all the time, my knees hurt and my eyes have bags around them... any suggestions will be welcome! bye!
luv, siya Raji replied. You know what.. I think your son is showing classic signs of attention seeking. He must be so worried that he will lose all the attention that everyone showers on him. No wonder he insists on behaving like a baby. A friend of mine is going thru the same thing, the only difference is her first is a girl. Her daughter wants her to put her down on her lap and wants to be put to sleep like a baby etc. Either ways, I really think your son will sober down in due course of time. My nephew was very rebellious and stubborn but he has mellowed a lot now. That does not mean that he has stopped being irritating or troublesome, thats all part and parcel. Once your son realises that the baby is there to stay, he'll reconcile.. Dont worry so much. Chill!!

love,
Raji shazi replied. Hi Siya,

My daughter was behaving the same, she would irritate me so much everyday and all the time she used to tell me that \"; U dont love me mama\"; and she wouldnt eat and was behaving like a brat. complains from teacher that she is become arrogant all of a sudden and stuffs like that .i had to call up my mom who is a teacher and asked her what to do.
She told me to keep telling her all the time that She is the only one i love the most infact more than her dad( she used to love it when i tell her that)and tell her that u are going to get a freind who u can play with and u got to do a lot of work with mama in taking care of the baby. u have to teach the baby many things. this baby doesnt know anything so u have to teach as u are good kid . u know how to eat ur food and u dont need pampers but this baby is chichi baby who will do all the chichi in his pampers. so we both have to take good care.And i even told her that she is incharge of the baby things.

it made her so happy and she is just waiting for the baby now. the jealousy is out and is behaving her self thank god for that.but as raji said its quite difficult to explain this to boys.

belive just to make her feel happy i had to really run this baby down like he/she doesnt know even how to hold a bottle he cant even drink / eat on his own we both have to teach him so many things. i had to tell her that when she was born she was a good girl and she learnt everything so quickly that she now can teach the baby.

things are ok now.

check this site it gives us some tips too.

http://www(.)pregnancy(.)org/article.php?sid=1564

All the best may be this might help it did in my case try it out.




Raji replied. Hi there,

I doubt if there is any real remedy for a naughty and possessive son. Just try and keep him occupied. Its all a phase, kids will try your patience especially when your tired yourself. As for sibling rivalry, all I can say is gear up for it. For all you know, your son will sober down in a while, it usually happens. They mellow gradually. You could try and involve your son in whatever you do for the little one but Im not sure how interested boys will be in baby care. All the best. When is your due date?

love,
Raji