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My problem is even after 6 months of marriage, we are not able to do intercourse. initially, it was problem with me, i was scared of pain, and now when i m comfortable with fingering to start with intercourse, my hubby can't force his part into mine. i don't know what to do. please suggest, i have already seen a gynae and i m perfectly fine. archu replied. hi,
this is archana i am also facing the same problem as u r i am very scared it is already 4 years that i have been married and am issueless the reply's u get may be help to me. Tasha replied. SHIVALI, I had this same problem. I promise I wouldn't lie to you. But my advice to you is to just relax. It sometimes take longer time to just feel totally comfortable with having sex. It took me two years to really get to the point where I can just do it with no problem. but the reason it took me so long was because I was just like you, afraid of it hurting and afraid of feeling pain. The next time when you and your hubby get ready to have sex.

Try these steps: First start off by hugging and kissing, maybe have a little oral sex at the begin where he would just go down on you. This gives your mind and your body time to relax, because if you just go striaght into trying to have sex your body may not be ready yet(causeing a little pain) because if your body ain't ready then you're going to start tighting up you muscle , making it impossible for his pennis to get in.
2)Next, try clearing your mind. Think about something else BESIDES, \";Oh my God it's going to hurt!!\"; Try Thinking
about how good it's going to feel, and how much you love this person.
3)finally, when you are ready to start havint sex(making love) just losen your muscle and it will go right on in.

Something else to keep in mind, one day when you're at the store just pick up some KY Jelly. And before having sex just put a little on his pennis, it help for the pennis to go in easier.
If you ever feel like talking just email me at Tasha829@hotmailcom
I'm always here for advice. :)
friend replied. Hello, don't worry everything will be fine. Have you both tried to have oral sex before you have intercourse, I mean try to get him ready and hard. Touch eachother, suck eachother, cuddle and play with eachother and slowly you will both notice that his part will go in very smoothly,but just keep one thing in mind don't think about it, just enjoy it and let nature take it's course. All the best......