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I am a mother of 9 month old baby and im working. My sal and my hubby's sal makes us live confortably (that means i shud necessarily work, in order to lead a confortable life)...

My mom takes care of my child and i as she too older, she is unable to manager her home with my kid...

My hubby is much older than me in age and he does n't speak a single word to me...always there wil be silent among us when we are alone, i really dont kno whether he knows as these stuff or not(my difficulty in leaving child and working, my mom's difficulty in taking care of my child etc...) . Always i wil be chating , he just nods his head while i spoke to him, as i cannot not even tel a negative word to him...i am becoming depressed now-a-days

As, i cannot leave my job (my hubbys behaves in such a way that i shud also earn to lead a luxurios life)..i earn equally to that of my hubby..

As i said to u , my problem is i am very much worried about my future , as there is a compulsion for me to work, and my mother is becoming older, she is not able to take care of my child and i DONT EVER BELIEVE IN CARE CENTRES.....plz dont suggest me to put my child in a care center........


Ultimately, i hubby's silence and his introvert nature is making me maddddd......

what shud i do , in this regarddd????

Working Mom replied. Hi,

Why are so against day cares? Have you had any bad experience in them? Maybe you could do the foll (what I also do cause my parents are also old..)..
Put your baby in a good day care for 4-5 hours in the morning...by then your mom would have finished with all housework with help of maid etc..and then when baby comes back in afternoon, she'll just go to sleep and then wake around 4-4.30...2 hours after than you should be back home....

Do not know why you hate dar cares..but this seems a good way out if you don't want to depend on day cares for the full day...

All the Best sushama replied. Don't hurry in making statements.....You, know, there are really very good care-centres now a days. But, in your case, since your mother is already there, keep one care-taker at home so that your mother can jsut superwise the care-taker. Her burden will be reduced to great-extent..