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hi all,

i am mother to a 2 yr old child. right from day one he has been v naughty & troubles me a lot while feeding him - food, milk & even water.

just became a housewife, as he started schooling. so m at home mostly or garden. only go out on weekend evenings.

my relation with MIL is not so good but we stay together...... my fed up talking abt it to my husband.

of late i have been getting v angry with my child, scold him, to the extent that i have hit him twice for not eating .....

dont know wats happening to me. feel v guilty abt doing it & yet i do it again !!!! wats wrong with me ?????? how can i control myself. how can i be so mean :(

otherwise m normal with him & others.......

need ur help urgent

pritee Gagan replied. Hi Pritee, I guess this is better addressed by a lady. But somehow I got tempted to reply to you. May be a man' s opinion helps. Do let me know if it does.
I would suggest introspect yourself and figure out what are you bugged up with? MIL or the kid? They are different and need to be dealt seperately. Understand psycology of both and handle them calmly though confidently. As for the baby, let him have his way till the time its not harmful, thats what doctor suggested to me when he was not eating. Let him get hungry, he will ask for food. Adamancy has to be tackled, not fought with.
As for mum, hubby is best person to be taken into confidence. Its tough for him to hear, but he alone is your nearest. Know him well and tell genuine problems to him, show him you have faith in him and look for a solution to ease relations at home, even though you have to give a little more. I am sure it will work out. Let me know if it does. Good luck and smile, it helps us all. Manisha replied. Hello, its very natural reaction that u have shown... its commonly seen in many parents i had rather say then mothers... all the frustration comes out on children..But if u have noticed it urself means half ur problem is solve... i wud just say that in any relationship shud be given equal importance.. wen u hit ur child its becoz either he is not listening to u or has misbehaved... Similarly ur mom in lw also expects the same frm u and so there are conflicts between u and her...which u dont like similarly u must understand ur childs state that how he must be feeling wen u hit him to get ur frustration out...place urself in his shoes and then react.. SRV replied. Hi dear..
first thing i ud like to tell u... DOnt get frustated.
MIL' s are like tht every where.. look at all the families.. it will be just same story.
if some women r managing it smartly then why cant u..
i have similar problem nd i have overcomed it to 60%.. by next year it ud be 80% surely.
i ll give u only 1 suggestiopn. try it twice nd if it work out then u know wht to do..ok
first dont ever complain abt ur MIL to ur hubby... unless u ve a proof. Even though u ve a proof dont tell it in anger, either discuss it or try to get sympathy from ur hubby. By doing this u r making ur hubby to take responsibility to react... this helped me may be for u too..
coming to kids matter. he the sole person who ll fight for u in this world.Take care of him nd dont take ur frustyation on him.. its normal to be angry if they being very naughty . i cant judge if u were angry or taking out frustation.. thts for u to decide.. Take care..u can always mail me if u need any suggestions..