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2013-03-13

Name: debika roy Hi I' ve been married for 3 yrs.My husband works in IT firm & earns quite well. He is never open with me about money matters,even did not put me as nominee in his LIC etc. He works from home & spends 3-4 hrs every day with my MIL . My inlaws (who are very well off) are very stingy. We dont even have a dinning table/almirah/Sofa sets. We live like Jhoppar patti people, wearing old clothes, old bed sheets. My Hubby take monthly 10K from me towards monthly expenses. If I insist on buying furniture , he asks me to give more money. He never shares any family issue with me & takes all decisions with Inlaws. I am working & earn around 25K/month . I dont like living like this

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Hi I' ve been married for 3 yrs.My husband works in IT firm & earns quite well. He is never open with me about money matters,even did not put me as nominee in his LIC etc. He works from home & spends 3-4 hrs every day with my MIL . My inlaws (who are very well off) are very stingy. We dont even have a dinning table/almirah/Sofa sets. We live like Jhoppar patti people, wearing old clothes, old bed sheets. My Hubby take monthly 10K from me towards monthly expenses. If I insist on buying furniture , he asks me to give more money. He never shares any family issue with me & takes all decisions with Inlaws. I am working & earn around 25K/month . I dont like living like this Sajid replied. Hello madam sad to hear that but please be calm and have a word with your husband and tell your pain i am sure he will understand and will support you. Samir replied. Hi can i ask you one thing if you are supporting your husband then why you are disliking it, rather maintain your house yourself as its your house also not his only. Sarika replied. Looking to your post feels that you are jealous of your mil and it should not be the case instead you should get involved in the family matters and see whats the exact problem. Sagar replied. Hi there you are saying you give 10k every month to your husband so where does he spend them is that he gives to his mother or what? Seema replied. There are problems in family so that doesn't mean you will open up like this in open forum, try to resolve it yourself or else take your parents help in it. Shika replied. Look dear nothing to worry just have a brief talk with your husband and ask to clarify why he is doing such things with and why you should give him money to spend. Ram replied. Hi why are you behaving like this after helping your husband, it might be that he must be having some problems which he thinks disclosing with you will make you nervous thats why he must have been quite. Disha replied. Hi Debika just a keep a eye on your money what you give to your husband just check where he spent it, this will give you a clear picture and then accordingly you can act on it. Ishita replied. Being in a marriage for three years and you are quite on this issue is strange why dint you voice it out earlier what maid you wait for so long, anyways you can always raise it now. Nisha replied. Hi Debika there are problems in life it might be that he must be having some loans on his head and might have not told you and repaying it without your notice. Monika replied. Why dont you speak to your husband upfront on this matter and ask him why he is hiding so much from you, ask him that whether he loves you or not if he loves you then he will open up. Ankita replied. Hi dear there are issues in every family you have to sort this out for a better future and also you have to be patience in this as its a very sensitive issue all together. eric replied. Its simple. u r still a 3rd person.ur hubby hasnt accepted u in his family. its like u r staying as a paying guest.get out of it. simran replied. and u r still with him why?

hide ur money stop giving him money save ur money and leave. Ur hubby is not earning any money and is just using u tsonga replied. Do one thing save money from ur salary and give him any sort of money, anyhow u r earning quite a good ammount, from ur saving u can buy whatever u want?. if he asks explain him about the problem, and tell him dat u too have a life of ur own and can hv wishes of ur own and remind him u r not a slave to him like those things, if he get arrogant try to convince him, otherwise leave him alone for sometime, then onlt he will come to know about ur value,because u dont know the value of anything untill u loose it. Mallu abkari replied. Your problem seems to be your hubby attitude towards you, I think He is just using you for his needs,Best idea to change him is that you just remind him about your lifestyle compare to others and just hv a conversation to have a baby. it may change his attitude.. Mallikarjun replied. I think u First need to stop giving money to ur partne, and have a one to one discussion regarding ur problems with him and show ur relative lifestyle who are living a betterlife than u, and insist him to avoid sitting in home and work. it may help u in someway. Ria replied. I think you need to talk to your husband about it. how can he treat you like this??? If he is giving money at home then why do you need to give more 10k???You could save your money or spen on yourself.. talk to your Hubby.

2017-02-11

#81

Name: Sajid
Subject:

RE:Miserly In laws & Hubby

Hello madam sad to hear that but please be calm and have a word with your husband and tell your pain i am sure he will understand and will support you.

2017-02-11

#82

Name: Samir
Subject:

RE:Miserly In laws & Hubby

Hi can i ask you one thing if you are supporting your husband then why you are disliking it, rather maintain your house yourself as its your house also not his only.

2017-02-11

#83

Name: Sarika
Subject:

RE:Miserly In laws & Hubby

Looking to your post feels that you are jealous of your mil and it should not be the case instead you should get involved in the family matters and see whats the exact problem.

2017-02-11

#84

Name: Sagar
Subject:

RE:Miserly In laws & Hubby

Hi there you are saying you give 10k every month to your husband so where does he spend them is that he gives to his mother or what?

2017-02-11

#85

Name: Seema
Subject:

RE:Miserly In laws & Hubby

There are problems in family so that doesn't mean you will open up like this in open forum, try to resolve it yourself or else take your parents help in it.

2017-02-11

#86

Name: Shika
Subject:

RE:Miserly In laws & Hubby

Look dear nothing to worry just have a brief talk with your husband and ask to clarify why he is doing such things with and why you should give him money to spend.

2017-02-11

#87

Name: Ram
Subject:

RE:Miserly In laws & Hubby

Hi why are you behaving like this after helping your husband, it might be that he must be having some problems which he thinks disclosing with you will make you nervous thats why he must have been quite.

2017-02-11

#88

Name: Disha
Subject:

RE:Miserly In laws & Hubby

Hi Debika just a keep a eye on your money what you give to your husband just check where he spent it, this will give you a clear picture and then accordingly you can act on it.

2017-02-11

#89

Name: Ishita
Subject:

RE:Miserly In laws & Hubby

Being in a marriage for three years and you are quite on this issue is strange why dint you voice it out earlier what maid you wait for so long, anyways you can always raise it now.

2017-02-11

#90

Name: Nisha
Subject:

RE:Miserly In laws & Hubby

Hi Debika there are problems in life it might be that he must be having some loans on his head and might have not told you and repaying it without your notice.

2017-02-11

#91

Name: Monika
Subject:

RE:Miserly In laws & Hubby

Why dont you speak to your husband upfront on this matter and ask him why he is hiding so much from you, ask him that whether he loves you or not if he loves you then he will open up.

2017-02-11

#92

Name: Ankita
Subject:

RE:Miserly In laws & Hubby

Hi dear there are issues in every family you have to sort this out for a better future and also you have to be patience in this as its a very sensitive issue all together.

2013-11-06

#93

Name: eric
Subject:

Think twice

Its simple. u r still a 3rd person.ur hubby hasnt accepted u in his family. its like u r staying as a paying guest.get out of it.

2013-09-01

#94

Name: simran
Subject:

debika

and u r still with him why?

hide ur money stop giving him money save ur money and leave. Ur hubby is not earning any money and is just using u

2013-07-05

#95

Name: tsonga
Subject:

Do one thing save money from ur salary and give him any sort of money, anyhow u r earning quite a good ammount, from ur saving u can buy whatever u want?. if he asks explain him about the problem, and tell him dat u too have a life of ur own and can hv wishes of ur own and remind him u r not a slave to him like those things, if he get arrogant try to convince him, otherwise leave him alone for sometime, then onlt he will come to know about ur value,because u dont know the value of anything untill u loose it.

2016-02-21

#96

Name: madhura
Subject:

yaah if u want to buy something save and directly buy for u don't ask his permission. if u do so he will send u in office with patchy cloths too if he wish too.

2013-07-05

#97

Name: Mallu abkari
Subject:

Your problem seems to be your hubby attitude towards you, I think He is just using you for his needs,Best idea to change him is that you just remind him about your lifestyle compare to others and just hv a conversation to have a baby. it may change his attitude..

2016-02-21

#98

Name: sita
Subject:

haha bbaby can change a lot of things. her husbannd is totally j**k i feel

2013-07-05

#99

Name: Mallikarjun
Subject:

I think u First need to stop giving money to ur partne, and have a one to one discussion regarding ur problems with him and show ur relative lifestyle who are living a betterlife than u, and insist him to avoid sitting in home and work. it may help u in someway.

2016-02-21

#100

Name: kimaya
Subject:

yaah why he asks money from uu if he is earning. i knnow there is nothing wronng in asking money from opartner but if hhe livves like this then why he should ask money for. he can livve really can well in his own gained money. and y he works from home. does he have proper job or just freelance

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