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Hi I' ve been married for 3 yrs.My husband works in IT firm & earns quite well. He is never open with me about money matters,even did not put me as nominee in his LIC etc. He works from home & spends 3-4 hrs every day with my MIL . My inlaws (who are very well off) are very stingy. We dont even have a dinning table/almirah/Sofa sets. We live like Jhoppar patti people, wearing old clothes, old bed sheets. My Hubby take monthly 10K from me towards monthly expenses. If I insist on buying furniture , he asks me to give more money. He never shares any family issue with me & takes all decisions with Inlaws. I am working & earn around 25K/month . I dont like living like this Anita replied. Hi dear in this i could see that its your fault and you are ding the wrong thing by giving money every month to your husband when he is not making you happy, please do not take me wrong but this is the fact and he is just using you. Anaida replied. Oh my god is this true or some kind of joke and why are you living in such a mess when you are earning a good amount yourself, please tell your husband if he does like this you will leave him and go away then see the difference in him. Leena replied. Hi would suggest you to eave such person and live life individually as thats good, as it is you are not getting anything out of it then why to be in such relationship. Jigisha replied. Hi there do not get upset for such things as you said you are a working women and can earn so why to wait for someone just go out and do the shopping for yourself. Jigna replied. Stop pampering your husbands with all his needs and then see the change in him and if he still behaves the same as earlier then it means he is not liking anymore and its time to separate. jigar replied. Please do not panic and get a solution for this speak to your mil directly or if not you can always speak to your own parents and get things resolved. Harpreet replied. Seeing your husbands behavior its obvious that he is not loving you and only loving your money so please act on it immediately before the things gets more worse. Janhvi replied. Being mum on this issue means you are ok with the things going in your life currently, speak up and get rid of this issue as soon as possible. Harjeet replied. Its very complicated as you are not aware where your money is going, why are you not raising the question why are you quite on this its your right to know as your a part of the family. Harish replied. Look dear its always said that you cant clap with one hand so in this case also there must be some fault of yours also thats the reason of treatment to like this from your husband. Harsh replied. Is it true that always a problem occurs because of a men, it can be possible that you must be wrong or must have said anything wrong about your husbands family and now he is reacting like this. Elena replied. Hi dear sad to hear about this, but you have to be strong on this matter and make sure you ask your husband about the money where does he spend and all. Harsh replied. Hi there please look things at a different view and you might get to see a new story and might shock you also, please dont judge your husband like this. Esha replied. Reading your post feels like why are you encouraging your husband in wrong things why, just stop giving money to him and teach a good lesson he will understand the value. Falak replied. Why you need an approval to wear good clothes and that too when you earning yourself and not dependent on your husband, its he who should ask to do anything as he is dependent on you. Deepali replied. Please do not get upset or loose hope if its just the starting you can always put a hold on it, stop giving money every month to your husbands and sit and discuss the issue. Daina replied. Looking to your husbands behavior its obvious that he doesn't love you its just that he there with you because you are supporting him with money or else he would have left you long ago. Deepak replied. Hi Debika even i have a family and my wife supports me in the money matters but i disclose the spending where the money is spend and all, so we are very happy in our relationship. Divya replied. A marriage runs well only when there is transparency in it and in this case its not, your husband is cheating on you and you are allowing it to happen stop this immediately. Deepa replied. Hi there why he is not letting you to wear good clothes whats the problem if you both are earning, looking to this its you are suffering the most in this relationship.