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Hi I' ve been married for 3 yrs.My husband works in IT firm & earns quite well. He is never open with me about money matters,even did not put me as nominee in his LIC etc. He works from home & spends 3-4 hrs every day with my MIL . My inlaws (who are very well off) are very stingy. We dont even have a dinning table/almirah/Sofa sets. We live like Jhoppar patti people, wearing old clothes, old bed sheets. My Hubby take monthly 10K from me towards monthly expenses. If I insist on buying furniture , he asks me to give more money. He never shares any family issue with me & takes all decisions with Inlaws. I am working & earn around 25K/month . I dont like living like this Jeetu replied. Hello madam this is really sad to know that you are facing so many problems and you are making this hell, but please understand that you yourself are making this problem as you are earning yourself then why do you need your husbands approval to spend the money. Hemant replied. Can i ask one question here what is the salary of your husband as you are saying he is working in an IT firm, according to me he must be earning a good amount then why he is taking money from you and why are you not questioning the same from him. Honey replied. HI there i think your husband is also earning a good amount every month as you said he is working in a IT firm, so why are you giving him the money instead start spending the same on yourself and why are you dependent on him for that. Hemali replied. Hi dear please stop this immediately of giving money every month and start demanding the basic rights for your self, please make sure you have the proper knowledge of what you want and tell this in front of your in laws. Heena replied. Hello there are you serious about what you are saying as this looks really sad and i feel that you should not obey your husband as he is not worth for that in fact you should start commanding him as you are the earning member and he is living on you. Harpreet replied. I think you are making the biggest mistake of life and at the end you are suffering and paying for it, please stop getting used by your husband and let the world know the fact and start spending money on your self. Dipti replied. The only solution to this is stop giving money to your husband and start spending the money on yourself, wear good clothes in front of him and his in laws and let everyone know that you are running the house and not your husband. Drishti replied. Hello madam this is very sad to hear that still a women is dependent on his husband after earning herself also, having said this you should fight for your basic rights and tell your husband that you cant live in this manner. Dimple replied. Hello dear this is not the way to live, you will have to fight for your rights if your husband is not helping you in this then speak to his mother and tell her that you are earning so much and giving money every month to him. Disha replied. Hi there please do not feel bad about my comment as it can hurt you but then you are the biggest fool on the earth as you are earning yourself and not spending on self for basic needs, why to help your husband when he is not allowing you to enjoy your own life. Dinkle replied. Hi dear this is really sad to know that you are living in this manner after earning a good amount also, is your husband having any bad habits or does he belongs to poor family as no one will like to live as you are saying. Deepali replied. Hello dear this is not done at all, please speak to your parents on this and tell them you are suffering so much, as they can help you in this at least by talking to your husband and his in laws. Sujata replied. Its been wrong and you are making it worst for yourself, please tell me why are you not speaking for your own rights when you are earning yourself and giving money also to your husband what is stopping you in doing this. Shreeja replied. Hi there please share your details with us as i am a lawyer and fight for womens who are not happy with their husbands so please share your details with your entire history so can study and guide you properly in this matter. Shikha replied. I can understand your situation as the same is the case with me also, but here i am not earning and living as a house wife but in your case you can fight for your rights and get it your demands fulfilled as you can do it yourself also. Seema replied. After giving money every month to your husband and living in this state is not acceptable, please why are you making so bad for yourself is there any other issue if yes please share it with us or else you are making a big mistake. Sarita replied. I am with you in this battle please tell me where are you living we can come there and help you out from this matter as we fight for womens rights and we run a big organization so please feel free to talk to us as we will help you. Suman replied. Hi there this is bad what is happening with you my sincere regrets are with you, please make sure that you speak to your husband and with his in laws if needed and get this solved immediately as this is not the way to live. Anushree replied. Hello dear please make it a point that you speak to your husband on this matter and tell him that this is not the way you can treat me and what is my fault when you are giving your husband money every month its his responsibilities which you are taking care of. Anu replied. Hi Roy this is extremely sad thing to hear but then you must fight for your own rights specially when you are earning yourself then why you need to ask for basic needs to have, just speak to your husband on this and get it solved.