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Hi I' ve been married for 3 yrs.My husband works in IT firm & earns quite well. He is never open with me about money matters,even did not put me as nominee in his LIC etc. He works from home & spends 3-4 hrs every day with my MIL . My inlaws (who are very well off) are very stingy. We dont even have a dinning table/almirah/Sofa sets. We live like Jhoppar patti people, wearing old clothes, old bed sheets. My Hubby take monthly 10K from me towards monthly expenses. If I insist on buying furniture , he asks me to give more money. He never shares any family issue with me & takes all decisions with Inlaws. I am working & earn around 25K/month . I dont like living like this Leena replied. This is bad to see that what is going in your life and you are just being treated badly and should not take this lightly, please speak to your parents about the same and get a solution for the same on immediate basis. All the best dear. Laxmi replied. Oh my god this is really bad what is happening with you and you should raise your concern to your husband that this is not acceptable and if this continues then you can go ahead and have the divorced file for the same, please make sure you are not living with the same situation at all. Eureka replied. Hi dear this is not done at all as you are making your life miserable and you are just wasting your earnings and you will be treated as the same for life long if you are not taking an action on it, please be very sure what you want from life. Esha replied. Hey dear please do not give up as nothing has gone wrong in fact you will have to fight for your rights and then it will be all fine just fight with your mother in law as she is the culprit in this whole drama. Understand what i am trying to say hope you will win it. Kiran replied. According to me you should not worry at all and just follow some bold steps first tell your husband that from nowonwards if he really wants you to live with him then he will have to start giving the money for your house and you will not give a penny to him from your earnings at all. Kinjal replied. Hello dear i can feel the pain as the same was my story in fact we had a love marriage and before the marriage my husband used to love and care so much but after the wedding all suddenly changed and then he stopped loving me and i was left all alone. Kavita replied. Hi dear this is bad to happen but then you are blamed for this as in why are you giving money to your husband when he is not supporting your own house and you are saying that he is earning a good amount then why you are helping him in this please stop this. Karuna replied. Oh my friend by good wishes are with you and also will pray for you that your husband starts loving and care for you, please do not feel that you are alone you can always post here and we are there with you in all your pain and will always give you the moral support. Kamini replied. Hello dear this is real story of all women and you are not just alone even i went through all this suffering but at the end i finally took a bold decision and choose to divorce my husband and that was the final thing what was left for me in that relationship. Priyanka replied. Hello dear this is really sad to see that you are going through all this problems as you should not be going but then nothing can be changed and you should always think positive as god is great and he will do some good for it for sure, please have faith in him. Priya replied. Mrs roy you are just wasting your time on it and you should not allow your husband to do such things with you, please speak up and fight for your own rights as this is not done at all and you should be fighting for the same rest is your wish. Priya replied. According to me you should always start with a conversation openly in front of everyone with your husband stating that you are feeling lonely and all this is making very sad in your relationship so that all come to know whats exactly happening in your life. Preeti replied. Fighting back is the only solution for the situation as no other thing can work in your favor as your husband will ever leave his mother and will listen to you thats for sure, so the only thing remaining is you have to fight for your rights all alone. Pooja replied. Here your mother in law is playing wicked games with you and should be aggressive on the same, please i know things are bad but then you have to fight it against the bad and show them that even you can if time requires. All the best dear for your future. Pinky replied. According to me you should not allow your husband to rule you and you should also stop giving money to him as this is really bad what is happening with you and you should fight for it right away, please take my suggestions in a positive way and all the best. Pari replied. Oh dear i can see the pain in which you are living and that too after earning so well where you can at least live a comfortable life, please do not live like this and make some decisions for the same as you are not suppose to live like this at all. Rajesh replied. Hello madam i feel sorry for your condition but then please speak to your husband openly once as he can have some different story to it, please speak to him and understand that why is he doing all such things is there any real problem to it. d replied. Hello dear this is really sad to see that you are suffering so badly even after you earning properly, please make sure that you have your rights in tact and also fight for your rights as these are basic ones not some extra ordinary. All the best dear for it. Dinkle replied. Hello dear this is really sad and according to me you should leave your husband immediately and start a new life altogether as this will not help you in future also.Please act accordingly and take the decision as i cant see a solution for this at all. Diana replied. Hello my friend it feels sad that still women are treated so badly and that too by a women, this is really sad to see but then you have to fight for your own rights and you have to speak up with your husband on this and make some clarifications on the same.