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Hi out there. I'm really confused as to what to do.
I have been married 7 yrs and we have a 3 yr old son. My hubby is a on the whole a nice guy, but he can drive me crazy..i mean really crazy crazy. We fight a lot and half the times for trival things. There can never be a normal discussion in this house without it becoming into a fight wether it be going to a party or buying furniture. ANY question i ask...the first response it ALWAYS...NO. Most of the time he changes it..but many times it is us fighting and then me just not caring anymore. Lately our fights have been getting physical..and on both sides..i'm not pround of it...we try not to fight(verbal ) infront of our son..but i know he can sense it. I really feel bad for him...but when i loose it with my hubby...we both really loose it. Things from the past come up and it just becomes nasty.
On top of it all my husband has a stupid grudge against my parents. On the face of it he behaves very well with them, talks very nicely on the phone, but he keeps saying stupid things to me about them and presses all my buttons. I love my parents a lot and it really bothers me.
Now i am going to go visit them after 2 yrs and was planning to go for 4 weeks..but by adding another week i can be there for my mom and dad's birthdays (my mom's birthday is the day i reach and my dads the day before i leave). But he is really mad at me that i am going for 5 instead of 4 weeks....We have had such a bad fight..now we r not talking to each other and the last he said is i don't need to come back.
Just for 1 week..instaed of understanding..he is fighting and wants to break up.
I'm tierd of all these fights and am seriously considering not coming back. Maybe i'm too upset and he too is upset and we need to cool down...but i'm tierd of hurting all the time.
My FIL is really this way with my MIL...always nit picking about evreything and her side of the family and trying to be controlling of everthing. I didn't grow up like this and i like to see good in people..and all this really bothers me. I don't want to have a marriage like my FIL and MIL. I know they r 2 differnt people and a differnt marriage...but i still can't stop seeing my hubby become like that...and I hate it. My FIL is such a bitter person and i don't think he has any real feelings left for my MIL. And i feel me and my hubby r going down the same path.
So the question is to stay or not to stay??? Just advice! replied. Dear Reema,
You have begun your post by saying that your husband is a 'nice guy' on the whole, that means he talks nicely to people, takes care of you most of the times , loves you and your son etc ....
So I believe that the problem is in your relationship not in the person then why do you want to leave the person? I mean nice people are hard to come by....
See it is not clear what is the root cause of problems in your relationship, both of you need to sit down and peacefully sort our your problems. i think he has certain issues against you(or your family) and you have certain against him (or his family). Both of you need to sit and have a long talk without getting angry. If you can't do it on your own go to a marriage councellor, but please stop thinking about separation.