Not Planning a Baby  Discussion Forum

I am married 1month back but i am not letting my husband to have with me because internally i am fearing about the pain during int..... What should i do now? Can anyone help me in this? Dr . sr replied. Plz use lubrication. It helps priya replied. Try Which means massaging of personal organs and ofcourse kissing,cuddling,most importantly embracing each other.This process makes your vagina moist and you don´ t need any lubricants.Moreover as said using lubricants affects condoms. Sunita replied. Just remember that using any oil based lubricants will affect condoms. So if you are not yet ready to conceive, use KY Jelly.

On a physical note, why not try just getting physically close to your husband without focussing on intercourse. Cuddling, caressing, kissing, massaging will all help get ' in the mood' , you may find that you don' t need the KY! Put more emphasis on getting to know your partners body, exploring without heading straight to intercourse. The other thing is you should talk to your husband about your fears, if he' s waited so long he will just be glad that it isnt personal! Im sure he will do his utmost to help you relax.
Good luck hun! sudhir replied. If u marry indian woman you will suffer like this. Sachi replied. Come-on Sneha,

Have a heart. I really pitty your husband. I am sure poor guy must be really very nice. One month and no Hanky Panky. That’s not done.

But just a little on the serious note. There is nothing to be worried. Every girl in the world goes through lilttle first time pain. But trust me the pleasure is a million times more then the pain. And half of the girls have there first intercourse before they are 20 or much before in college. Pain is just equivalent a small prick of injection. If you are still concerned. As others suggested. Apply KY jelly or some healty oil like coconut generously on your husbands penis and in your vagina and let it slid inside you as you get into the seventh haven. Just think about your love making and you wont feel any pain.

Have a great love making.
vidd replied. u can use ky gel for it , at free time u finger ur vegina by applying KY gel , then u dont feel pain aarati replied. Put some oil(coconut/baby oil).