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I hv been married for 8 yrs now..My husband is not bad person..but he uses filthy language when we argue...i come from a decent affluent family..he doesn't..they did hide a lot of things like his age before marriage..i regret not leaving him earlier...now we hv a child and i am taking care of child being at home..he also abuses and hit me..i too feel so bad that i can't imagine anyone's ralationship could be like this..
now i also react and say same things he say and hit him back..all these makes me feel sick..i feel bad to do these..evne wehn i cry so much he is so indefferent....i hv lost confidance in myself..i feel worthless(he makes me feel that way inspite of whatever i do),i am very well educated and very good looking(pls advice me..everyday is living hell..i don't hv any good friends in this country..my family is in india..pls help me.. Kovalan replied. Hello Hi,
Firstly I would like to sympathise with you for the trouble you are going through. To solve the matter amicably try and get the elders in your family to talk to him and be stern about using filthy languages advising him that the young kid will follow his language and it will be hurting later. You also have a choice in some countries as we have a family court and you can get a protection order (PPO) assistance from them and if your husband were to assault you. He will have to face the court and answer to them if you are bitten up by him.Please approach your lawyer if your husband is not wiling to cooperate with you.Anyway try the soft theorey first before going for legal advise. Hope you will have a good family life. hey replied. i would suggest u to go and get a job and work, then u can prove ur hubby that u r worth something as u said u r very well educated then why do u worry even now its not late if u try ur best u can get a job dont worry. and regarding u using bad words or hitting him i will not ask u stop it, its good that atleast u have the courage to do it keep it up i would say. just go and look for a job then see how everything changes rachna replied. hey dear,

i realize your problem. but I think most of the people can be turned good. I think your husband is a type of person who is not frank, he must be of reserved type. so he might have many wrong thoughts buried in himself, of which you fall a victim. My advise would be to go out for a break or vacation. and talk calmly. try to dig his heart and find out what are the problems that he has with you or anyone else. Tell him that you dont like the way he behaves with you. Just be cool when you discuss this. If he is willing to talk and discuss then better, otherwise file a divorce.