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hi,

recently i found a friend over the net, who shared some of her bedroom secrets with me. She told me that there is something called female orgasm like male orgasm. And since she was married about 1 year ago she and her partner have sex regularly and she attains one orgasm after another while intercourse.

My problem is that I have been married 4 months now and though my husband is a very romantic and good lover ( though we started sex after 1 month of marriage). I get excited a lot and am all wet during intercourse, but that \";orgasm\"; thing doesnt come to me. He releases after some number of strokes and then his penis goes limp and I am not able to hold it in my vagina any longer. Many times he has continued stroking for about 10 - 15 mins but i dont feel any difference in my vagina. I feel his orgasm when he throws sperm inside me, but i myself dont get any sensations in my parts.

Since the time my net friend has said that I am very much worried and think I have any problem. Do all women here in group get this orgasm while sex with your partner?????? I tried to discuss it with my husband, but he got all the more worried and thinks he is not able to satisfy me!!!! LA replied. Personally, it took me years for the first orgasm. I think it is common in most women to not have orgasms for almost the same amount of time after having sex for the first time.

As you get older you get more comfortable with your body. Also, the more you have sex, the more you will learn what turns you on to the point where you might orgasm and eventually you will.

Just a suggestion- try having sex with you on top - that way you can be in control of the movements and you will be able to orgasm most likely afer a shorter amount of time. Then you can try to relax and orgasm in other positions. raj replied. hey ladies
I have seen this before, the lady should be deep into sex and participate enough to have a orgasm. some women requires a lot of foreplay ...so play around a lot. after the usual nekling, play with the breasts enough, kiss, suck fondle the nipples....they are essential for forplay then work on the vagina area with your fingures....most ladies g-spots are just outside the vagina....presure or caressing here will help in the orgasm. you dont require actual penetration of teh penis for a orgasm, you can do it with your tongue as well as your fingures..try it out and let meknow.

rajkumar_nair@yahoo.co.uk padmini replied. urvi my personal experience is that it is difficult to attain orgasm by penetration. We share a good sex life, but I dont get orgasm by penile sex. Though oral sex excites me very much and I get a lot of orgasms. Why dont you guys go for oral sex along with normal intercourse. All the best and do post us if you were successful. prerna replied. hey joana... u got ishita wrong. she did not ask her to fake oragasm.i guess she was just trying to tell urvashi from indian men's point of view. they can have severe ego probs. archu replied. hi urvashi,

first of all let me tell you i dont think orgasm is so much important for sex life. The feelings of each other are more important. you are worried about this issue and it might unnecessarily create problems in your married life. Just let your husband orgasm(which is important for producing a child) and be happy with your sex life. I am enjoying a good relation with my husband even though i never orgasmed in my life. I too have heard and read about this and that is how I know. Moreover my mother tells me that she disliked sex altogether, even many of my friends are not interested in doing this. but still lead a good married life. i too even hated the sight of my husbands penis earlier but i have accepted it now and everything is ok. Why to make orgasm such an issue dear? ishita replied. hi urvashi
don't worry. this is a very common prob. many women don't get orgasms very soon. and since u r married for just 4 mnths now, i don't think it is matter of concern. i myself had my first orgasm after so many days of having sex.

however u can try some alternatives. like in ur case u said that u r all wet. sometimes if u get too wet, then u can't feel the sensation of the penis inside u bcoz it is too \";slippery\";. moreover this can also cause the penis to come out in between since there is not enough grip. so what u can do is that just wipe urself with a tissue partially but not fully. and then continue. or don't indulge in too much foreplay. start intercourse as soon as u feel that u r wet enough.

or another option is to try different positions. u haven't told what position u do usually. (i assume missionary with him on top). if so then try with u on top. this way when his orgasm happens will be in ur hands. if u feel that u r not getting orgasm bcoz he ejaculates early then this will be the best position. his orgasm will take some time to come and meanwhile u can have urs.

and one more thing...try not to talk this (abt u not having an orgasm) with ur hubby. this can cause ego probs with him. trust me a man is very happy to know that he can \";please\"; his wife. and if u tell him otherwise then he may feel bad and hurt. u have just started ur marital life... so just relax and take things as they happen.
best luck.
and tell me when u have one. yep replied. i m married since 3 months and we have sex regularly. even i enjoy female orgasm continuously. we have intercourse for half an hour and after half an hour my hubby ejacultes and so within that half an hour i get orgasm many times one after another and i enjoy a lot and i scream at the top of my voice.
its all in your brain as well when he is stroking u, enjoy even a single storke to the core then u will know the difference,