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hi friends,
i m married for 3 yrs. my husband is a real good person, honest , intelligent and very true at heart. Though ours is an arranged marriage, he was desperate to marry me after having met me or seen me. Now, after we got married...after 7-8 months his behaviour towards me totally changed. I used to get a feeling that he is not interested in me nor in having sex with me. I used to wonder y and he used to only tell me that becoz of job tensions he behaves like this with me. Till today he he doesnt have that desire and that feeling of having sex ...though we do have sex if i force him to or tell him that i cant control my urge.but becoz of this we constantly have arguments. I m sure he doesnt like any other girl or have any affair. He is too much in to work and career oriented that he is not very much interested in other worldly affairs. He gives me money and financial help whenever i need. The other problem is he does not like to go out for a walk, or out on a week end or just for a vacation. He only loves sitting at home either on the computer updating his knowledge or watching tv(thats the only entertainment he enjoys) whereas i love partying, going out and enjoying..but how can i do all this if i dont have a partner..(my husband). i stay with my in-laws and cant go out for enjoying myself if my husband wouldnt accompany me..whenever i have problems with my inlaws he does justice and always supports whoever is right. I like this nature of his. can anyone tell me y does he not like having sex with me or go out and enterain ourselves. How do I cope up with this nature of his? i have always dreamt of enjoying my life with my husband and doing all sorts of things with him whatever i love to...and hence never had boyfriend prior to my marriage? pls reply soon..im waiting for yr answers Pm replied. Hi Shruti,

I have already replied to this same query to \";ab\"; in Sex related issues. Replying the same thing to you.

I am also going through the same problem like you. My husband and i are good friends and we get along fine. But where it comes to sex he is just not interested, it really hurts me at times. I discussed this issue with him once, i felt so ashamed that i had to discuss a topic like sex with my husband, sex is such a natural thing but i discussed it with him and there were no results from that. I have realised now that there is no point breaking ur head over him or such an issue, my life is moving on and i am trying to be happy with it and you also try to be happy with it. If he realises he will surely come back to you.

You take care also. Jo replied. Hai shruti, don't worry about that cause my hubby also does the same thing. It is almost going to be 3 years we got married (arranged marriage). May be he is really busy to earn money for us. Try to look good everyday and do whatever for him including helping him to wear socks when he goes to work. Hope inlaws are not there on that time. Take care him as your baby. These is to attrack him thats all.