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Hi, mine is a real major problem. Please, advice me. I feel I have failed in life. Please take time and give your opinion and your suggestions.
My son who is 8yrs old is a very tough guy. Off late, he is not studying at all. He is not completing his notes in school, while all other children in his class are writing. Teachers have told him enough times, but he is just not bothered. He doesn't mind taking punishments, but does not want to write. At home, he is not studying. He keeps whiling time away by seeing here and there or by playing all the time. He doesn't have the urge to do things fast. He is very slow in writing. He struggles to join words and read. I mean, he is not able to read any thing aloud like other children. He is not interested in anything. Be it play, studies, drawing, singing, music, games etc., He only wants to while away time without doing anything. Ha yes, he loves watching TV that too only cartoons. He doesn't even know to play with other kids. He keeps laughing for no reason while other children play properly. What is the problem with him? These problems are from his childhood, not now. Off late he just hates to write. Please tell me some alternatives. I am worried for my son's attitude.
Dr. Ramya replied. dear mmm,
i insist u go to a child psychiatrist and have a developmental assessment done for your baby.they will guide you. but dont panic. your child might just feel difficulty in concentrating.consulting a psychiatrist is not shameful. so dont feel bad. Dr. Ramya replied. dear mmm,
i insist u go to a child psychiatrist and have a developmental assessment done for your baby.they will guide you. but dont panic. your child might just feel difficulty in concentrating.consulting a psychiatrist is not shameful. so dont feel bad. G R D replied. I will sincerely advise you to disconnect the cable connection at your home and tell your friends and neighbors to send their children to play at your house i have seen a similar story unfold in a nephews house even his son is mad about cartoons and i am disgusted
do away with the tv and wish you best of luck Champ replied. Dear mmm,

U really have a problem at hand.....an eight year old who does not want to write is one thing but if he cannot read then maybe u wud like to take him to a specialist.

I am not a specialist but still wud like to try and address the issue -
Howz ur sons vocab? Is he a free talker? Does he understand wat his teacher dictate in class? Bcoz if answer to any of the above is negative then its simple, ur son has not built up his vocabulary or language skills so he cannot understand the language at the speed at which the class teacher is dictating.
Try making him write the same at home by requesting his teacher to hand over notes given one day.

Language skills build up eventually by the age of 3-4 yrs, children begin to understand spoken words, form sentences of their own by getting used to hearing the words and make mental images of words and patterns of sentences. but this happens if at both school and home there has been an effort to develop the skills....

Ur prob currently is too vague --- cud u break it down into specifics and also a bit of histroy of ur child so we have a proper perspective on this???

Was he like this from the begining?
He never used to pay attention in class?
Wat have u done for it?
Has he flunked classes?
Does he express his views in proper words/vocally?

rgds,
Champ ravi replied. Hi,

Try rewards if he does his work correctly. Also talk to him if he has any fears or concerns at home or school. Do activities that involves both of you so that feels you and your words friendly. Play games which involves two players like chess cards etc and slowly get over his fears.
Do arts and crafts and let him lead the ideas for completing it.

Explain to him about the responsibilities of each member of the family and that each is doing his/her duties in time.

More ideas soon..

Thanks
Ravi.