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My dear friends
hello

i have a 5 months old baby girl and suddently i came to know that i am pregnant again .
should i carry or abort ?
i m in usa and not going to have any help at the time of my delivery or after . Husband is in full tim e job and can not take more than 10 days leaves .
here i do all househld work alone and no servants .i also handle the baby with all work
what should i do ? i am not in favor of abortion but it seems ,to me very difficult to handle all that situation . what should i do ?
will i be able to handle the second baby also with all other things . i have passed through the c-section at the time of my first delivery .
is there any solution ? please suggest me soon
thanks
bye annie replied. Giving up your child is convenient right now, it will only emotionally scar you for life. Do what you are comfortable doing, but remember raising children is hard anyway, might as well raise two and tie up those tubes or get your husband to take care not getting you pregnant.

Whatever you do, think of how you will feel in the future. especially think of how happy you were to find out you were pregnant and how scared you were of losing the baby in the first trimester.

I would recommend that you have the baby and get your husband more involved.


Good Luck with whatever you decide. Chitra Muralidharan replied. Hello nancy

Are u alka who posted the same question in 'Planning baby'... 'Waiting to try'?If yes, u got pretty good replies there
so dont forget to check them before taking any decision

Best of luck Nina replied. My dear,
You have a big issue at hand. I first need to say that abortions are a big issue.


First of all, you must sit down and have a talk to your husband as Shilpi advised. You need to look at the facts; you do have an infant and having two small children is a lot of work; however, as a parent, it's interesting how everything usually falls into place in ways you never expected it to.

Having an abortion will haunt you for the rest of your life, something you will not want to deal with...it's a decision that I would not ever want to make.

Your body hasn't even had time to \";rest\"; since last giving birth and having a c-section with your baby makes this a tough thought; going through it all over again.

If you do keep this baby; you must take 100% extra care of yourself by eating very healthy, forget about managing weight, afterall, during this pregnancy, your unborn child needs a chance to grow healthy.

If you do abort, think about this first...
-can I handle the choice I made
-what impact will this have on my marriage
-will or how will I explain this to my family (inlaws, parents)
-will we have children in future

All of those questions you need to have answers for since it's a big deal.

I can say I feel for you; I truly feel sad for you since your situation isn't ideal since there aren't family members here for you, your baby is young and also, you don't have a maid.

Let me ask you this question...
Will your husband be supportive of hiring a housekeeper or nanny for you for a year or two if you plan to keep this child?

If it could be afforded in your family budget, I would hire someone to come in 5 days a week for a couple of hourse to sit with your baby and or clean your home while you tend to yourself.

It's a good investment in the long run even for Mom's with one child only.


I would like to hear an update and/or response, I really care about your situation.

A Friend,
Nina Shilpi replied. Hi Dear.... Actually, I m not in favor of abortion, but looking at your problem, I suggest first you talk to your husband about it... If he also thinks that he can't handle two kids.... even one of them. If he can't then I suggest to abort the child. Well well, you have not mentioned how many month preganancy you have right now.. Well, Think first before you do any thing....

But it seems strange... you are here in USA and don't use precausions!!!!!! Well any way, next time dear, tell ur hubby to use precausions first, before you have any intercourses.... so you won't have to face this kind of problems again....k? Good Luck.....