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Hello friends.I am a female Medical student & aspiring to become a gynaecologist or a Pediatrician.The reason for me to post this message is to know the views of indian women from India & around the world on their views on some of my queries about them relating to the medical feild.The queries that I am to ask is very much related to the behaviour from the posts I have read in these message boards & are very important to me for a special purpose.

* Would U prefer to go to a Male doc or a female doc for a gynae related checkup on the basis of the quality of the doc or on the basis of the gender.

* Would it be Absolutely normal/Adjustable/A bit uncomfortable/extremely uneasy/impossible for U get a checkup done if there is no other choice but to get it done form a male doc.

* Would U communicate or respond to the male doc in the same way as u would to a female doc during the checkup.

* Would U prefer or want the doc to let U know each time what he is going to do prior to the checkup(body parts to be checked & so on) or is it absolutely OK if he continues with the checkup procedure.

* Would U want the doc himself to make adjustments related to your clothing or body position to make it more comfortable to him to conduct the checkup or ask U to do so.

* If any queries exist in your mind that could lead to some more additional checkups would U get is sorted out or just leave it.

* would U prefer only a female member or even a close male member(eg. husband) would be OK with U during the checkup.

* What would U like to wear during the checkup saree/Salwar/Tshirt/Gown like dress during the checkup.

* Would U prefer the do to make some humorous or off topic statements during the checkup to make U feel more comfortable or would u like it to be done only sujective to the checkup.

* Would U mind it if the male doc makes some sugestions or notes out certain points of your body parts to u(like for instance a scar on your tummy or so).

* Would U mind if the male doc was a family member of yours distant/near but U know the person well.

* Has anybody got a checkup done so far before this way if yes then pl do share the experience in breif to know the problems faced & sugesstions preferred.

* Would U prefer try to cover yourself each time the doc takes some time at some other work.Like for instance adjusting his instrments for the checkup or may be atending some urgent call or so.

* Is it absoltely Ok atleast for checkups done for non private parts like the stomach or so by a male doc.

* In checkups like these naturally female would open up her belly or so the doc or so for the checkup.Would U mind if the doc to do it himself by shfting your saree or may be lifting your top or would U like him to ask U to do it for U.

* An repulse given from the body is very much expected due to the touching during the checkup.Would this only be for the first time a contact is made/each time/only during the first few seconds/everytime time during the checkup.

* Lastly but most importantly what would this 1 thing be that U would deslike or could irritate U the most during a checkup.Do list it if any.


There is a very strong positive purpose behind me asking your opinions on these.Do please give your very frank opinons or sugesstions on these & also let your friends or some relative give your views or opinions on these.The purpose behind it wouuld be disclosed after a while & also a opinion on that would be asked.Please be frank enough with your answers.Do mention your age & the caste/religion U belong to if possible during answering the questions.

Waiting for your responses very eagerly. friend replied. Would U prefer to go to a Male doc or a female doc for a gynae related checkup on the basis of the quality of the doc or on the basis of the gender.
- As for me quality is impt but gender is equally impt so i would go only to a female gynec.
Would it be Absolutely normal/Adjustable/A bit uncomfortable/extremely uneasy/impossible for U get a checkup done if there is no other choice but to get it done form a male doc.
-Extemely uneasy
Would U communicate or respond to the male doc in the same way as u would to a female doc during the checkup.
-May be not
Would U prefer or want the doc to let U know each time what he is going to do prior to the checkup(body parts to be checked & so on) or is it absolutely OK if he continues with the checkup procedure
-Well, i would want the doc let me know prior to check up
Would U want the doc himself to make adjustments related to your clothing or body position to make it more comfortable to him to conduct the checkup or ask U to do so.
- Doc should ask me to do thatswhat my gynec does
If any queries exist in your mind that could lead to some more additional checkups would U get is sorted out or just leave it.
- Well i have to go it's concerning my health
would U prefer only a female member or even a close male member(eg. husband) would be OK with U during the checkup.
- I prefer my husband or if he is not available go alone not with anyone else
What would U like to wear during the checkup saree/Salwar/Tshirt/Gown like dress during the checkup.
- Salwar is the best
Would U prefer the do to make some humorous or off topic statements during the checkup to make U feel more comfortable or would u like it to be done only sujective to the checkup.
- Anything ok
Would U mind it if the male doc makes some sugestions or notes out certain points of your body parts to u(like for instance a scar on your tummy or so).
- No i guess
Would U mind if the male doc was a family member of yours distant/near but U know the person well.
- For a gynec i prefer only a female.I won't go to a male gynec even if he is closely related to me or i know him well.I just feel awkward going to a male for checkup.Am shy by nature.
Has anybody got a checkup done so far before this way if yes then pl do share the experience in breif to know the problems faced & sugesstions preferred.
- no exp. so far
Would U prefer try to cover yourself each time the doc takes some time at some other work.Like for instance adjusting his instrments for the checkup or may be atending some urgent call or so
- No i guess
Is it absoltely Ok atleast for checkups done for non private parts like the stomach or so by a male doc.
- i guess that's ok
In checkups like these naturally female would open up her belly or so the doc or so for the checkup.Would U mind if the doc to do it himself by shfting your saree or may be lifting your top or would U like him to ask U to do it for U.
- He should ask me
An repulse given from the body is very much expected due to the touching during the checkup.Would this only be for the first time a contact is made/each time/only during the first few seconds/everytime time during the checkup.
- First few seconds
Lastly but most importantly what would this 1 thing be that U would deslike or could irritate U the most during a checkup.Do list it if any.
- Any sarcastic remark
Am 30 year old , don't want to mention the cast , brought up in India but living abroad since 4-5 years. Sheetal replied. Hi myself Sheetal,28 years old mother of a 1 1/2 yr old son.

Here are the answers to your questions.

1>Would always prefer a female doc(iff gynae related) but then it depends if at all I would be knowing the doc previously or so then I may give it a thought.
2>I would say adjustable since you mentioned if no ther option.
3>Yes,after all the basic purpose to go to a doc is to get a solution to your problem.
4>It is preferred if he does let me know because then even I am sort of involved in it by trying to understan what is

happening.
5>As far as body adjustments are concerned he has no other option but to let me know but clothing adjustments I think they

should be fine even if he does it.
6>I would defineely gte all queries answered even if they could lead to additional checkups after all it is my ow healthy.
7>Best option to have y hubby along or else my elder sis or any other female very close.
8>Salwar best option absolutely no fuss with it.Saree worst option,never,practicaly impossible to get a checkup done with hat

on.
9>yes it could make me feel a bit more comfortable a little bit of talking here & there.Mainly it drives away the bit of

nervousness or so that could be present because of the silence.
10>I dont think that is necessary even if male/female.
11>If I know the person well I would never mind it.
12>No not as yet in my case but my sister's pregnancy checkps were completely done by her own brother in law & it was

absoltely fine.
13>No experience to share on that.
14>No that souds silly,adjusting your clthes again & agin could always irritate the doc as well.
15>Absolutely.The doctor I visit for illness or any other body pain or stomach pain sort of thing is a male & a good friend

of ours.His checkup always starts this way first a sthethescope exam & then a press all over the tummy(God knows for what) &

yes that has never been a problem.
16>As far as I am concerned for the above checkups the doctor has not as yet everasked me to shift or so he does it by

himself.
17>Being very frank with my experience a bit of repulse yes,but only on the first touch thats all.I beleive that is human &

absloutely nothing uncomfortable or uneasy to do with that.
18>Hmmmmmm nothing I can think of as such didnt have any such irritating exp as yet.


Now for my opinion on your prob.Please do tell your bro to go forward with this idea.In case of Gynaecs there are only 2

things that people see
1)The pregnancy should be safe.
2)The baby should be healthy.

Thats all.Nobody thinks of things like comfort or so.And yes I know a few male gynaecs who have got their clinics full 365 days a year because of the basic fact that they are good doctors. Archie replied. Rachana,
Read your discussion with ABC.
To be honest with you, web may not be the best option.
This site is highly used by Indians abroad and very little Indians from country itself.
Views are too different in people brought up abroad (even Indian breeds) and brought up in India.

I only hope you can get results you desired.

My suggestion would be to rune this survey in a little different way. May be in field (in India), there you may read people and see their reflection.

It's hard to imagine person from writings in letter, often misleading.

To me and many educated people it should not matter whether Dr. is male or female, what's important is service.

I know some male OB/GYN in India did excellent practice. So your cousin is unlikely first Indian male Dr. choosing this option.

True that most will be biased to have female, but not necessarily be the case.

If your brother has wonderful brains and is great with his service, soon he can get popular.

No matter what's specialization choosen now a days running hospital or clinic is big risk as there is plenty of competion no matter what specialization is choosen.

Hope this will help you weighing option.

Don't you think your family should weigh and pay little respect to your Mama's opinion as he is working in the field and he is educated. This is not fair that his opinions are ruled out because he is from your mothers side. I quite did not understand. Likewise there are many more issues with cultural and way families are brought up. So don't forget this point itself. Your family itself is first family of your field survey!

Archie abc replied. hi there,
i was almost ready to give u reply regarding ur questions but in the end saw that u also want to know which caste/religion, why is that?? what has caste/religion got to do with the answers. i dont think u want these answers for medical purposes.
u hv also mentioned the purpose behind this survey would be disclosed after a while, that doesnt seem right. normally if anyone wants a survey, they first tell us what is the need for that. u hv not listed that.
i will reply to ur survey only after u clear the above doubts.
bye meera replied. gender