Friends.
I am expecting a baby and expected date of delivery is 27 January 2003. I have a problem that due to some official assignments I am not able to stay with my wife she is in Bareilly (UP) and I am in Delhi. This official assignment will continue till April 2004.

I am worried about, whether it will have some bad effect on my baby? what effects it will have? how can I minimize the bad effects? Can somebody suggest me in this regard? I will feel great and delighted.
With Regards
Ganesh
Mol replied. Hi Ganesh Babu,

I really apreciate that you had bought a cell phone for your wife. In fact I was about to tell you that, but I don't know if ..you know..if I suggest that, would that be practical with u.. I am not in India.. Cell phone is affordable here.. But I am glad to hear that you actually bought a cell phone!!

That would really help her talk in private and you can talk to your baby too. That is a very nice idea. That way your baby will be so close to you as the mother is. He/she will get used to your voice. Bravo!!!

God Bless!
Mol replied. Hi,

I am very glad to hear that my suggestions helped you.

Bring her something that she would like. Ask her what her cravings are, and ask her if she wants anything from Delhi. Or just bring something as a surprise. It doesn't need to be expensive. Its the thought that counts. Let her know you love her and you appreciate that she is handling things alone at home.

You can do recording an audio cassatte for your baby. This is just what people belive. There is nothing scientific about it, of whether it bonds you with the baby better. At the same time, there is nothing wrong in doing that. If you were near your wife, you would have certainly talked to your little one. But I won't suggest that as the only thing you should do when you are away. More than the baby, your wife needs you now. When the baby comes, you can do a lot of things to enlighten baby's life too. But until then.. Concentrate on your wife.

Hope this wil help you.

Good Luck. Mol replied. Hi Ganesh Sahu,

I am expecting my first baby in Feb 2004. I always wanted my dear husband to be near me. That makes me so much happy and comfortable. In turn this makes my baby healthier than ever.

If you are away from home, your wife would be facing some insecurity feelings, no-one-to-take-care-of feelings, and you know..every pregnant woman needs her husband the most. If she is stressed out beacause of your absence, that can cause her blood pressure to rise. It will create problems during delivery. Its not always the baby, mother's health also plays a very very significant role in pregnancy.

Try to comfort her through weekend visits, frequent phone calls etc. Even if she is around her parents or in laws, she needs you. So give her your presence in many ways. Always confort her.

You will get a healthy baby.

Good Luck!
Mol. D replied. I am not a doctor but I personally think it may not have much effect. The main thing that they say is the baby hearing dad's voice for being able to associate with it after born. May be you can record a small audio cassette of your voice which your wife can play near her tummy. Because the baby is sensitive to touch and sound at this time. Again I am not a doctor but just thought of sharing.