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hi,with great trust iam sharing my problems with
u all,who really can give some good advice to me.iam married 11yrs back and have 2 kids.he is in good position,now but he would never take care of me when iam sick and would always want to take help from my parents,he dont like my parents but he always say that my parents are so irresponsible and not taking care of me,not showing me any job,since iam a housewife.just because they couldnt keep up some promises during marriage he has gregde on me and he compares me with other working ladies.i also loose my temper most of the times,we will have fight,moreover what ever goes wrong in the house like kids get less marks or they misbehave or something to do with his own also he blames me ,my parents .he wants me to do find a job without his help,tru parents where my dad is retired.he never has respect for them,same way why should i respect his parents though i know he has their influence on him.is it only his parents to be given respect every time?my parents had done whatever they could for me ,i know that my husbands priorities are changing ,but he can as aswell help me in finding a job ,but he never wants to help.basically iam masters in commerce .can any body advice me in finding some entry level job in b'lore.i want to be independent,not to bother him much.any help is appreciated .thanks Deena replied. You Can Earn An Excellent Income, And Achieve
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cheers replied. Rima, don't loose heart. If you are staying in Bangalore, you can look for classifieds in local newspapers like Deccanherald, Times of India etc. There will surely be jobs for Commerce graduates. Patiently look out for jobs daily, you will surely get a job someday, if not today, might be after one year. Just keep trying. And regarding your husbands fault finding and not respecting is not your problem. If you really want to work, then please start searching for a job, but dont do anything for his sake, because he will never be satisfied. Once you start working outside you will get friends and your mind will be occupied. If after eleven years your husband has not changed how can you expect him to change now. So forget about him respecting you or your parents or you doing vice versa to his parents. All you need is a change. Just get out of the rut. Try to be independent for your sake. Otherwise you will just land up trying to change him and his views. And I'm sure that will never happen. You can also browse websites like naukri, jobsahead etc. friend replied. Hi Rima,
U have a very good qualification but for finding a job u will have to show some work experience.So my suggestion is ,if getting a job is ur priority...then u need not look in ur own field that is commerce.u can try other options.U can take up a computer course and learn some basic computer skills like Word and Excel.....which might help u get a data entry job ,or as \";abc\"; has suggested u can take tutions at home and become independent....All the Best! abc replied. I can very well understands your problem.I know you must be very dissappointed also. But you know we girls can do nothing in this man dominated society.
I suggest you that you can go on google website and search for some home based jobs. that was you can earn also and take care of family too. You can sell some products online and earn money. or you can teach children also at home.
Hope it works........
Best of luck.