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hi there
i have a question for the working ladies ........
here is the situation

-my husband is very conservative abt money.
-He doesn't want me to spend any money of his...
-He doesn't trust me about any financial matters
he won't tell me abt any bank transactions he does !

and i think he just pretends to be loving and caring husband .

he has lost his love after a big disaster (fight)bet'n me and all his family (my in laws.)

well
i still love him .
and care abt him .

What is the best way tht i can have rights to spend my own(earned) money .
As it comes to having aseperate bank account !

But i think doing this will hurt his feelings as we have been having a joint account existing since we got married .

so please help .
suggest something tht i cud find a way to spend my money and i can know what is happening with my earnings ?

thanks

sumi LA replied. Um, he doesn't let u know anything about the money but u put ur money into a joint account???? And you'll feel bad if you get a seperate account but he shouldnt feel bad that he doesn't let u know what he does with money, yours and his???

Anyway, it's a joint account, you have the right to look into what is going on. Tell him you are going to do so and that he should share what goes on the way the account is shared, otherwise you will get your own account and he can have no part in it.

Or you could be nice about it and try to discuss it and see if you can compromise but he might have a big ego and just want things his way.

good luck Jayashree Mani replied. Dear Sushmita,

Please answer to my question-

Did he care about your feelings? As to how his actions are going to hurt you.? No. Then why bother about his feelings.
Just be bold enough and say that you want to know what is happening with all his earnings and your earnings. Become bold and ask him. You have to help yourself. In this world,you get nothing without asking. It is your right to ask and know as to what is happening with the money. Demand your right.

Bye,

Goodluck,

Your friend.