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Iam staying in US and my husband from few days asking me to visit India for 2-3 months with my baby(7.5 months). I never told him that I want to go India without you as I have no trust on him regarding relation with other girls. But since now he wants me go , I will not be able to refuse him otherwise he will make my living difficult in US .He won't say that why Iam not going to India but since he will not get the opportunity to stay alone, he will quarrel with me with other reasons ,with this main reason in his back of mind.
Suppose if I go to india, is there any way to keep complete watch on my husband.I really don't undersatnd how to keep track what he do in 2-3 months time. Iam very very upset.Can anybody help me ......
Thanks in advance. mdh replied. don't go India if u don't want to go.try to talk with ur hubby when is is in good mood and tell him that u don't want to go.if he don't listen then u can tell him ur decision that u are not willing to go and there should not be a pressure on u.
bye A replied. Dear Rani,
First of all I would like to know, why do you think that your hubby wants to do something wrong in your absense? Has it happened in past? Is there some girl in his life? Are there some problems in your marriage?
If there is any such reason, then you talk with him and tell him that you don't feel comfortable going alone. Also, tell him, that even if you go, you will be tensed and it will make the -ve impact on the baby.
About keeping a watch and stuff, nobody can keep a constant eye on him. And it might lead to some mis-understandings also like if he has to work late for some reason and ur friend tells u that he has come back past mid-night, it wouldn't be fair. So better, don't even think about that. Try to sort out this problem like a mature person. Talking to ur hubby is best solution, but from ur message I don't think he'll be open to any kind of communication on this topic. So, the only thing, you can do is, tell your hubby that you don't want to go to India right now, may be you will go in winter, and this will buy you some time to sort out the things.

A. nilesh replied. hi rani,
i think u don't have much to do with this problem b'coz ur hands r tied with a bond called marraige.
If u want to continue your marraige u have to let go whatever happens in ur absence.
OR
If ur gonna have somebody watch him closely and he does something wrong

then u will have to face ur disguisting husband and ur life afterwards.
U won't be having any proof of his wrongdoeings if u r going to use ur friends to keep a watch !B'coz its always unsure untill u see tht with ur owneyes .....this is what ur husband will claim !

anyway
this is what i think
its up to you how to handle it

good luck

nilesh juvinile replied. i think you need to help yourself. You are making your life miserable by suspecting your husband. Tell me what will you gain by keeping a watch on your husband? He will do what he has to do ( i take your word here) and you will pain yourself by witnessing all that. Now there are two simple solutions. One is dont ever see your husband with suspicion, trust him. Second is, let him do what he wants to do and continue your relations peacefully without any hatred or jealousy. At the end he is going to return to you as your husband. Dont try to cook spicy gossips for your own self. Take things very lightly. It will ease your life!!