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FRUSTRATION AMONG YOUNG GENERATION


Nowadays it always comes in news and newspapers that teenage child has hanged himselfherself or suicide in any way.
Why it is so? What is reason behind it?
Frustration, depression, loneliness and many problems remain in his /her mind from childhood , which is not solved and those things come always in mind when he /she is not getting things according to desire and child is not able to express his/her feelings and this continues as he/shegrows.
These feelings make a place like a deep wound , that can be healed only with love and affection but it is possible only if he/she is close to mother’s/father’s heart and can express without fear. Child himself/herself has a set of aims in life without knowing his/her capability ,elders too create a pressure for that high aim .If it is not fulfilled,the past feelings of frustration, disappointment makes them to end their life.

Love affection and care of child from infant age are required and elders must watch the interest of child and mould accordingly.In modern era ,there is scope in every area/field what is needed is excellence. Excellence can be achieved only in the area of interest & aptitude , that will lead to wining success. And this will ultimately make the parents proud of their wards.
Parents must take serious ownership of their children in present overexposed environment. The word ownership has to be understood properly.
I would appreciate parents comments on this.
Shashi prabha srivastava
Ex- Principal of a High School.
Vijay replied. Hi it was nice to see your post on India parenting.

Yesterday we went to watch Taare Zameen Par and was deeply touched by the movie. If I was a movie critic I' d give it 10 star rating.
I guess it is a must for all parents and parents to be to watch this movie. Check out the website taarezameenpar and don’t miss this movie.

I guess this should be seen and discussed by all parents...

The movie made me really think of our role as a Parent...

In the midst of the eternal rat race, long working hours, increasing salaries and ever increasing expenditures…and the never ending
fight to make both ends meet we’re sacrificing the most important gift we could give our children ..time truly spent with them without
the worries of the upcoming deadlines, office politics, or the next EMI repayment bothering us…time spent with them understanding
what they’re telling us...time spent really “being children” with them.

Probably few of us even give it a thought before we decide to have children and fewer realize the responsibility that goes with raising and
nurturing children even after having them. For most of us it just happens as a matter of course that after wedding having children is the natural next step.

Nuclear families and both parents working being the norm and with the safety net of the grandparents increasingly disappearing,
those that directly suffer are the children. Children end up in dubious day cares or with nannies often hardly out of their teens.
We try to compensate the lost time with our children by buying them more and more expensive gifts. Ourselves in the rat race we
want our children also to be super-achievers. Be the best in studies, acting, dancing, singing, swimming, cricket, tennis and
what not else. Often we will impose on the child what we were not able to achieve making them pawns in the story of our ‘success’.

Salaries have grown for sure but we always need bigger houses, newer cars, kids in ‘named’ schools and of course more and
more shopping at the malls for the fanciest brands to drain anything that could be saved. Living more and more on the mercy
of credit cards we get entangled in the web of increasing debts that only adds to our misery…without the peace of mind to
enjoy time with our loved ones. We’re not satisfied with what we get paid since our needs keep mounting and this leads to
more dissatisfaction you take back home.

Do we give a thought where were heading.

Parents are not able to deal with the increasing work pressures leading to problems in their relationship. The children are naturally
so sensitive to pick up even smallest of the friction between the parents which if serious would lead to developmental problems
in the child. Result…, inability to cope with relationship with siblings, peers and adults, deviant behavior, bad performance in schools.
As the kids grow up to be this could develop into rebellious behavior with parents, bullying peers and smaller children, and yes, in
rarest cases turn to criminal tendencies.

I personally regard all the money and comforts that ‘development’ brings us is meaningless if we first do not ensure that our children would
have our time, will be protected and brought up with care so that they blossom into loving and caring individuals who’re capable of coping with
life’s myriad twists and turns and themselves be good parents.

Probably it is a good time to spend some time in the family discussing these issues… looking if you’re spending ‘quality’ time with kids
and family, if your spending is under control and you’re not pressed under debt, seeking guidance from the elders in the family
or even professionals to sort out any issues that you might have pushed under the carpet.

… all because this is the greatest responsibility of all you’ll ever have in your lives.

Happy Parenting,
Vijay Krishnan