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I have certain doubts about the sax life I am having.I didn´ t want to go to the ´ SaX´ forum because I found it a bit dirty.Sorry to post this here.I am childless too.
I donno how to start even.My husband doesn´ t allow me to accompany him for his doctor´ s visit.Usually he comes home and tells me that the doctor said everything is fine with him.It was my gynae who found out during IUI that his sperm count is low.Then after coming back from his next visit to his doc he said that the doctor says is only one side of his balls is developed and he is having a bent penis or something.Whenever he gets an erection his thing is always half and bent.But he also says that his doc says it is alright to be so.As far as his count he has not tested after that or taken any medicines.It´ s now one year after my gynae said his counts are too low for IUI.He also says he doesn´ t want to go for IVF, which I am desperate for.His mother knows this too and she is almost killing me sending me to temple after temple and putting me in a greatly planned schedule of fasting and her talks are just killing me.Even after she knows his son might be responsible too, she is behaving in this manner and this is driving me nuts.Now that my sister in law who recently got married became pregnant, God her words are killing me.Ijust want to die." coz not even in my dreams I can´ t stand up to these people.Even if i start opening my mouth about his having to test,no one will talk to me and leave me out for a week or so.Then i have to ask for everyone´ s forgiveness for behaving rude.Sorry girls just venting out.And sorry again for the gross details.Please let me know any opinion of yours and one more thing is some times he cums easily but most of the times it is like he keeps doing it and says he cannot cum and gets frustrated and is drving me crazy.Even for this i get to take the blame.Later he says this is nothing to worry about and it is the same with everyone.I don´ t think so because this is happening only for the past 10 months before that it was fine.Only thing bothering me is that I dont have a child yet and I might develop some problems too with his delaying his treatment. vilma replied. A small typing mistake it is not parent mean to say partner. i vilma replied. I think u first need to relax. Dont listen to your in-laws . Juat ignore them and dont care for them. Because tension is very bad it is also a major problem . if u take tension and dont relax your mind. u cannot conceive. Take folic acid tablets that is good if u are trying to be pregnant. if u or your parent is over weight try to reduce weight not by dieting but by eating healthy food. Have proper sex and proper sleep. If u are sure your husband sperm count is very low talk to the doctor and they will advice some medicine which will increase his sperm count. bye see u take care. enjoy life. i wish u all the best. Monika replied. hi dear, u dont write abt ur age and married years so that it may be convenient to tell u exactely.
I am agree with u bcoz normally inlaws behaves in such manner but ignore them. they will become silent when u will get success. i agree with Dr. Sharma' s Views. after intercourse u should lay down for abt 20-30 minits do not go toilet immediately.
1-2 pillows under ur hips may become blessing u. dont tri for any lubricant.
still u are not concieved please try for A SPERM DONOR there are so many donor facilities in the sperm labs. u can choose according ur and husband choice.
i hope u will get success shortly
with best regards
yours
monika gupta anu replied. hey it isnt to feel sorry abt being telling yr story which is the truth !!

first u didnt tell me yr age n yr husbandz n how may yrs since u got married !! becoz age plays a major role n both male n female !!!

u hav to convince yr husband by reassuring him tht u wudnt blame him or saying u will sport him at all means whtever his rests r and dont mind going thro anything !! if he still isnt convinced whn u r going to yr doctor n he accompinies with u u prehand tell yr doctor to advise him n do conselling to him !!

for men its very difficult to agree with the fact tht they hav problemz !! ask yr doctor to give him some advises tht if he smoking wud cause this problem but if stopped then automatically his count will increase

then he shud hav hot water bath only luke warm or cold is btter !

yr husbandz balls shud be immersed in cold water ( freezer water ) for 5 mins everyday !! twice !!! this wud help him to increase the sperm count !!

try some home remedies like dont add the white thick part which is in the head of the onion , garlic as it will reduce sperm count , avoid food which give heat such as chicken, brinjal , fish and dry fish !!! avoid plantian stem or flower at all times !!!

then give him dry friuts and and fresh fruits $everyday n any form
if u or him are overweight try to reduce weight 2gether like walking or swimming which is the best !!
whn u do all this expalin him tht u r helping him and supporting !!

regarding his cumming early is also n yr hands !! during yr foreplay arouse him and move away from him very playfully and again do it at intervals which will increase his stamina !! dont over do it and make him angry !!!

and regarding yr inlaws please ignore them n expalin yr husband regarding this tht they being silent over this is indirectly aiming him through u !!

and going to temples isnt wrong hav faith going forced is no use !!!

though this is a very painful ride end of the journey yr goal shud be achived !!!

no pain no gain !!! Dr.Sharma replied. Hello,
As per your situation and trying for concieve , you could take the advantage of ovulation Kit .
This LH ovulation kit will predict if you are ovulating .
to get know about ovulation is very helpful for concieve .
If your cycle length is 28 days then your body will discharge LH hormon from day 12 to 16 (Depends)
During this ovulation period you can make the intercourse then the chances will be increase for pregnency.
they will deliver you ovulation kit at your location.
And you can take following instructions :

1- Use Pillow under hips during sax .With this method lot of sperm will stay in vagina .

2- Use Folic Acid and multi vitamin Tablets regularly .

3- Do not use any Lubricant / Gel / Oil/ Cream during sax .As it all damage
sperms .

4- Take daily 30 Minutes of walk .

5- Check your thyroid , if it is not normal , consult with doctor.

6- Do not take bath in Hot water . Try to take in Low hot water.( You and your partner)

7- Use ovulation Kit for checking that when you are ovulating . Make the sex
every alternet day during ovulation .

8- Do not take any stress and enjoy sex .

9- Try to make your vagina sperm friendly .Do not go immidiate for toilet after sex.

10-If you have little bit over weight then try to reduce that also with exercise or yoga .

11- Before making the intercourse , it is required to have foreplay with your partner.with this method lot of problem will clear naturally.



To get a baby is no more difficuly now a days

hope you will get baby soon .
Thanks
Dr.Sharma sanjeev mehta replied. I was very disappointed to haer your story . In this 21st centuary you are tolerating all this. if your husband is allright with u I mean his behaviur.then you need not to worry. Try to convince him that you both need a baby.As far as sperm counting is concerned there are many medicine are available in market. You wrote about bent penis i think its normal becoz i m a man too 27 unmarried. had no sex till now but in erected position it becomes bent. u can laeve me message any time. if you still dont get success talk to me without hesitation. sanjeev mehta replied. I was very disappointed to haer your story . In this 21st centuary you are tolerating all this. if your husband is allright with u I mean his behaviur.then you need not to worry. Try to convince him that you both need a baby.As far as sperm counting is concerned there are many medicine are available in market. You wrote about bent penis i think its normal becoz i m a man too 27 unmarried. had no sex till now but in erected position it becomes bent. u can laeve me message any time. if you still dont get success talk to me without hesitation.