Planning a Baby  Discussion Forum

Hi all,

This is my first mail to this forum

We are now married for little more then 4 years, we did not wanted children for the first 2 years as ours was arranged marriage and we both needed some time to understand each other hence the only protection we used was a condoms and nothing else.

We are trying from past 2.5 years but still we are not being blessed.

I am confused as to what is the reason coz in this past 2 years my wife has faced a lot of problems initially the problem was that I was finding it difficult to penetrate and so my wife felt lot of pain and due to this the fear feeling was developed and interest of having intercourse was vanished (tough its regain now)

We have consulted many doctors, but every one is having a different opinion, some says that the opening of vagina of my wife is not big and so she is experiencing the pain, some says that my wife’s body require lot of water as it keeps the urine diluted, and whenever she will drink less water she will have the pain and an urinary infection.

We have got the all types of scan done and all the reports are normal, my concern is only on 2 things

I have got my sperm cont done it says that the quantity is normal but the motility is less (not too less also as per doctors and can be cured by medicines)

I have got the HSSG scan done for my wife also, and it was found that the tube on the right side is blocked… reasons are not known and also not sure it will be temporary or permanent

The menstruation cycle of my wife is 25-28 days, this month when it was due she experienced pain and a small amount of brown discharge (usual as the indication of beginning if next cycle)

She has still not got her periods and today is 33rd day, but during all these days she was complaining the pain and cramps in her stomach daily as it happened to her in the beginning of the cycle


My questions are as below

Is this delay is due to pregnancy or its just the delayed periods, and if it’s the delayed periods then what are the reason for the same

Should we try normally or there is no option other then trying artificially?

Please help rita replied. hope things will work out for u.
no honey, i don' t live in india. go to a hospital instead of private clinic.
let me tell u what happend to me.
i have a 2 years old child and i was on birth control pills since last year. my periods are very regular, but last month i had my periods for 2 days and it stopped. i did 2 hpt and it became negative, but my body was changing. i have food cravings and feeling pregnant. i did a blood test and beacame negative. my periods are due on 15apr but it came on 4apr. i have no idea what is happening. i had coffee colour discharge. my doctor said wait till next periods.
sometimes mind can play games with u. just relax. don' t think about pregnancy toooo much. it will happen if u r more relaxed. go for little vacation and enjoy and forget about pregnancy. it will happen than.
take care. rita replied. well i think she should do a home pregnancy test. usually the brown discharge is the indication of pregnancy and cramps for implantation.
do the test or see a doctor.
don' t worry god is watching everyone from distacne. he knows better than anyone.
good luck.