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We are married for the past four years...I dad an ectopic in the first year of marriage..also suffering from PCOS and hypothyroidism..have been trying successfully to reduce weight..I have had 7 IUIs, 3 laparoscopies, and numerous times have had timed intercourse. There is no problem on my husband' s side..Also, after the last laparoscopy, my doctor has advised me just to concentrate on losing weight..and things will fall in place. It has been 7 months since my laparoscopy..I have lost 6 kgs so far...but not getting the desired result. I have some queries in my mind:
1. I know it might sound silly after four years of marraige..but after he comes, most of the semen oozes out..we try putting pillows and stuff..but can this interfere with our chances of getting pregnant.
2. I have read on this forum about mucus in a woman' s vagina which can be an enemy for the sperms entry and survival. Is that also a possiblity in our case?
3. Also had read about some antibodies which can prevent conception.

If anyone can help me out with these queries of mine, I would really appreciate it. Anita replied. (1) it is perfectly fine for fluid to run out after intercourse. Sperm once ejaculated will swin upstream and get into your cervix. Don' t worry about it.
(2) as Dd mentioned, PCT is the test to find out if sperms can survive in your mucus. This test is done on 12 or 14 cycle day. You will have intercourse in the morning and within 4 hours go to the gyn. They will take a sample of your mucus and test it under a miscroscope. The mucus will form a fern like pattern and sperm can be seen moving vigorously. If they are not, then you have either a hostile mucus for the sperm to survive or you have antibodies that kill the sperm - like an allergic reaction for sperm (a blood test is done to find this)
For both the above conditions, IUI is the answer since it bypasses the mucus region altogether. Since you have had already tried IUI several times, your problem may not be this.

There is really no need at this time to do PCT since you have gone several steps further. What did they do the laps for ? Are your tubes open ? Your laps should have shed some light on what the problem is. If everything is fine now, then give your mind & body some time off. Try and relax and take a vacation if possible. Sometimes when we try too hard, it doesn' t seem to work. If losing weight is something your doc suggested, take the initative to do that. Cut down on carbs, sugar and start exercising. Everything wil l work out. Give your self a break. Good Luck. Dd replied. Hi,
1. I don' t know for sure but I have read somewhere that it is normal for semen(fluid) to come out but the sperm remains inside. so not to be concerend about it. Try to relax & not think too much about it while having sex. Anxiety is not good for conceiving.
2. to test the quality of your mucus you can go for Post-Coital Test (PCT)
if you serch, you willl find info in detail about the test in website. I can not post url' s. Ask your gynec to perform thetest for you.
3.Yes I have read about them too in some of the threads here but don' t know anything about it.
My doctor says, stress is the main factor in my case. so After 4 unsuccessful IUI I have stoped all treatment accept some aurvedic medicine & concentrating on things other than baby. so will be seeing my doctor again in july after 4 months break.

Advice for you, tkae some time out. stop tinking about it all together.. just concentrate on improving your helath & have sex whenever you feel like. for reducing weight along with the medicine you r taking you can go for ayurvedic medicine callled ' tirphala' which you need to take 2-3 piils after both meels. I am taking it since 2-3 months & though I don' t need to reduce, it feels really good.