u can imagine how long i have waited to ask u this question...
i am sorry again but cant help it...take ur time but do answer ..i will be waiting for ur repply...
am very sorry for troubling you ..its very nice of u that inspite of suffering so much you take time to reply on this board ..that s really nice of you …

I think u are only suitable person around me who can answer this question n clarify my doubt ….
one question which i always wanted to ask u if u come back on this board...which no one has ever discussed on this board also...
about ghooti...and observing 40 days strict ruules about diet, massage, tying stomach with sare ...etc
giving bal ghooti to babies is very popular ...but i never gave to my baby...coz acc to me . whatever i hv learnt by observing others n reading books in my opinion its not necessary and i feel for 6 months babies should be only bf for 6 months...and nothing else
bal ghooti is basically nothing but few jadibootis u get in local ayurvedic shops or nowadays you get readymade too like dabur janam ghooti.....which u can gv to ur babies..for various digestion prob ...n for better health....
in my family infact we start ghooti from the time we come home from hospital...
personally i think its not hygenic too...i don’t know I can be wrong also….

what can u say about that?

i have a new neighbor in my building she just deliverd a baby thru caesarian 3 weeks b4..she doesnt gv any massage to baby or for self ...i wish u cud come n see her..i think after delivery she looks gorgeous...n her baby is extremely active n alert for her age ...
her stomach is back to normal in 3 weeks she doeesnt even tie it for 40 days ( that we observe after delivery) only thing she says we concentrate on diet ...nothing else..she is form orissa...i am shocked to see her n her baby...touchwood may god gv her more strenght n better health...but she looks better than me and i have strictly observed whatever i was told to do for 40 days after delivery
any comments on this...2 things ...about janam ghoti n observing strict 40 days after delivery taking massages for self baby ...eating methi ladoos...loads of pure ghee...covering ur self all the time...wearing slippers all the time. etc etc....?

after massage n bath for 40 days u gv dhuri to baby n mother...u burn wawa...n take that smoke...
i dont what it is calledin english..my daughter got rashes..n we had to stop...she got red spots on her body...i had taken her 4 vaccine when her ped saw that he shouted at me ..n told me to stop dhuri...at once...he had said babies lungs get filled with smoke..its dangerous...but all my life i have seen post delivery in my family we have been giving massage, dhuri to mother n babies...
pls can u throw some light on this issue as I a m really confused...my mil on the other side refuses to accept new ideas...n i am too confused..
pls help...


one more thing i wud like to add here i had asked same thing to my mom n mil...my had said such females become old soon coz after delivery u have to do all this....my mil was of same opinion....she said u get health probs later in life...
hetal pls take soem time out i am desperately waiting for her opinion...
shelley replied. hi gouri
have u remember me,i have a doughter of 16 months i have faced same problem when i was in india (when my baby is of 6 month old)every one in my inlaws want to give her ghutti and dhuri,but i stopped them strctely even they says to me we modren peopel r out of mind what ever else,so reason behind this is (i have a strong believe in ayurveda and home remedies)but dhuri and ghutti in these days r not practical, in ancient time ppl use dhuri to kill insectes in house and to purifiy enviourment of house but they have very airy houses,so reason to use and mode of use is totaly diff.in case of ghutti,today that is avilabel in market prepared one,and i don' t believe any mark and i am not abel to prepare that one in house(ingradients of ghutti is for disetion but that ingradients are for adults then how can u use that one for a new born.instesd of ghutti for u can use sonf ka pani,if baby have colic u can use hing massage (boil some amount in water whem water is luke warm then use that one.if u rbest freeding him even u can drink one time in a day.
in case of ur neighbour i can say every one have diff physics.
message is best for babies if u r giving him regulerly that is best one.message is best also for u.
take care of baby and also ur self. Athi replied. hi gauri stop tat smoke since its a old custom for us but it create lot of problems like Asthma and synus etc. how many month old is ur baby , but its better to stop and massage is good but tat too don' t strain and give . Mil will be forcing so avoid in such a way saying have to feed or ur noise irritating since its very dangerous for babies , stop before she is gets bigger irritation .
sorry for interpting u called for hetal since once i read i m shocked.