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Hi,

I studied master degree & I have a 9 month girl baby. My husband is money-mined person. 1 year continually creating an issue and not providing a solution.

When I was pregnant of 2 months, my mother-in-law raise a question that,"before earning money , now u need baby?", at that time my husband was very strong as backbone of me. We need this baby..

After a month, my husband changed, with their parents side & started to fight with me and my parents, not even take me hospital too. My parents need to travel around 600km & take me to hospital.

At my 5th month of pregnancy my husband leave me in my house and went to his native, it may be around 200kms. Because of no need to travel. After 2 days, I ask with my husband, doctor asking you to come, plz come.. there he starts ," ask with my dad, if he allow then I will come". Still now, I ask anything related me r baby, his oly word."ask with my dad"

After many issue , he take me back to house. Atleast until we both individual house, if v fight at 10 mins, rest v both will be happy & adjust something..

At 8th of my pregnancy , he left me in my parents house & went, 1.he stop talk with me 2. Send a msg that "henceforth I won't come, my parents oly important" 3. Asked me divorce at my 9 th month of pregnancy.

On my delivery, lot of critical I faced & 40 hours I tried for normal delivery, by hearing of his harsh words from my husband. For Me n baby get very very serious. So I accept for c-section.

After my operation completes, nurse shown baby, then took me to ICU - on the way all my parents, relatives, brother etc all came to see me. But my husband was standing at last & he not talk with me a single word, I can able to see his eyes alone.

After 8 hrs, while I coming from ICU to room, my husband was not there.while I asking with him, he answering that, al astrologist said boy baby, how it comes as girl baby. I can't able to digest this girl baby, he said.My daughter was in pink color, & she looks soo cute.

On 7th day of my delivery he came to my house, take his certificate & fight with me & my parents, he came to beat my mom while try to push him, my stitch has opened and started to bleeding. My parents admitted me in hospital.

After 2 days , my parents and relatives went to his house to resolve this problem . His father talked more wrongly & my husband said until end I live w with my parents, I don't want Ur daughter & tht baby. So I kept name, I take care of her hospital & al miscellanous expenses, took a policy for her. But now he asking how u keep name n open policy n wear dress for her..

Still now he continuing problem, by talking of bad words, telling tht if anybody come to his house to resolve this problem means beat in slipper, opened matrimony id for second marriage, comparing me with other guys, taking wrongly about baby, if I try to give court case means he ready for that before me and asked legal advice and did safety of his property.

my parents too tried to resolve the problem, either positive r negative but he not ready always hearing their parents words and telling that we can resolve this problem after 50 yrs.

I thinking about my baby life, more over due to this stress still my health becoming was very much trouble. I feeding for baby, bcoz of this, she too getting health problem. Last 4 days admitted in hospital due to his fight in phone.

Plz suggest me, what shall I do ? Whether there have any way to resolve this problem. Myntra replied. Hello Lady,
You need to think about it because your children future effects also.It will effect so heavily because society will speak a lot and it is an important one in your life so that it will not be any problem to you also. No Name replied. Hi Sa Sa,
It is better you leave your husband and be free of him but if we think about the child she needs her father.It would be better you only speak to him and solve your issue and you cannot depend on your father also know.Think about your future and take decision. Sana replied. Hello Lady,
It was really bad part on you.Just think how can you sustain with that husband in future also.But you had an infant child you need to take the decision according to her future because now people are not good and we cannot trust no one. Medha replied. Hello Sa Sa,
I think your husband is doing all the things wanted only.He is expecting some thing from you and you do not get panic for such tings because your health also getting affected and even your baby also.But you need to be bold and strong. Megha replied. Hello Sa Sa,
It is so sad that your husband and your in laws are behaving like that to you. So you need to clarify what he wants exactly and why he is doing all this.Try to solve problem according to your daughter because she needs her father love also know. sheila replied. your husband is insane and if you ask me take him to court and get divorce if he is not giving you divorce please ask for your safety from that monster in court. he is completely insane and don't have curtasy and he is really a monster don't respect anyone. ask for penalty in your divorce at a one time so you will not be in his contact after that. One life replied. He is just not worth it. Get rid of him. But don't let him go easily. Make him pay for it. When he comes for divorce drag it around. Also ensure you get sufficient settlement. If he is desperate for divorce insist on Lumpsum settlement. Cover your daughters education including bus fees, raising her, your expenses, her marriage, her higher education. Also charge separate, some 20 lacs, for mental discomfort due to his absence in kids life. He is indebted. If he is not willing don't give in for divorce. Let him rot with his parents. He is spineless. Ask him if he asked for his dad's permission every time he had intercourse. Same-old replied. Hi dear, he will never change. It may take you time to realise that. But ten years down the line you'll regret wasting even a single day trying to patch up with him. Move on. God has been kind to give you the company of your daughter. Get rid of him, find a job, God will give you a hundred times better partner very soon. Good luck