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Name: rashmi
Country: India
 To work or not to work aftr having kids s an individual decision. In india we are blessed to have strongr support system which mostly allows us d freedom to step out f our homes while having d faith dat our children will b well takn care of. In d absense f which However its extremely diff to have our peace f mind while out on work. But watevr is d case I wud urge every women to work, do something withthemselves, have a world othr then kids n husbands. Its very imp to be independent as well as to have an identity. I know it will b difficult but guys we r gud at multitasking. Its possible. Lets start , do , think , act. Well m tryn. M sure we all will.
Name: rashmi
Country: India
 To work or not to work aftr having kids s an individual decision. In india we are blessed to have strongr support system which mostly allows us d freedom to step out f our homes while having d faith dat our children will b well takn care of. In d absense f which However its extremely diff to have our peace f mind while out on work. But watevr is d case I wud urge every women to work, do something withthemselves, have a world othr then kids n husbands. Its very imp to be independent as well as to have an identity. I know it will b difficult but guys we r gud at multitasking. Its possible. Lets start , do , think , act. Well m tryn. M sure we all will.
Name: sanjana.reddy
Country: India
 I am a mother of a 8 month old baby.before pregnancy also I find less co-operation from my mom-in and law and my hubby.my hubby want me to earn money from s/w company ,no matter how late it would be to comeback home.And my mom-in-law tells me many rules and regulations to do that ,this without arranging any servant maid.I finally thought its waste of going to job for the sake of these hopeless and selfish people and now I resigned my job in Infosys and looking after my baby.now he is harassing me to lose weight,reduce ur intake of curries as u r not going out to work.he is a doctor by profession.dont know how my life goes.
Name: Shameena
Country: Kuwait
 we should have good understanding about the things what we face in our personal&business life & about health, then only we will success on that.
Name: Dr.Jyoti Priyadarshini
Country: india
 read the article.ihave recently resigned from my job & am shifting to a new place with my in-laws.i have 1 daughter(3.5 years old),twin sons(2 years old)& am finding it difficult 2 cope up.let's see how the things take turn.
Name: Joan
Country: Indonesia
 i am having the same dilemma as yours. reading your article is just like i am reading my own life. i pray to god of giving me energy, hope, and power to do everything, especially fullfil the love to my baby.
Name: preeti
Country: India
 yea its true tht both the parts either official or familywise specially kids is a hard n tough job to balance. but if ur inlaws are staying with u and are caring abt ur kids then definately u cud hv a lil relief.
Name: Malini
Country: U.S.A.
 i agree. the dilemma continues. i have a 2 1/2 year old... and its so difficult to do the best in both these roles.. any time i see my child, really independant and not needing me, instead of feeling happy that she is so self confident, i feel really bad ... its good to know that so many women share these feelings..
Name: Rohini Rahane
Country: India
 i totally agree with you. kids grow and become independant but this is also true with moms who are with them. it is not that because we are working kids become independant.
Name: neenu
Country: India
 very true monica. i too have two kids with one and half years diff. i took a break of 3 years and have now rejoined work. feels prick of conscience when they say ma i need you than the nanny. all the feelings you have put in was like a replica of my thoughts. i still feel how am i going to take them for extra curricular activities with my tight work schedule. even the time with my hubby is getting neglected. if any finds solution to monica's thoughts pls do pen down something
Name: Anjali
Country: India
 i agree.but my question is what is the solution of this problem??because we can not ignore our kids,who are their friends what type of company they has?? in my opinoin we should quit our jobs after kids because i think we dont want to miss their single stage of growing.this is the role which god has given us so we should try to be excel in our roles.if their is any financial problem then we could consider that work is alright.
Name: AD
Country: India
 i can relate with each word that you wrote in here...im a working mother with a kid of 2 yrs...and feel exactly the same way...at work and at home, i feel guilty of not putting my 100%.
Name: Riya
Country: India
 how very tru, every working women can relate to this ....its the quandary of every working women it seems and something v have to deal with ....every now n then i feel like quitting for my 2-year-old girl though she is being well taken care of by her dadi but i still cant take the guilt out n the possessiveness i feel venever she prefers her aunt (my hubby's sister who is not very nice to me) than me ...i cant tell u how much it hurts
Name: sharmala
Country: India
 it is very difficult in india to take care of 2 kids as india is not friendly for working women, with the higher cost andcesrian operation, education for a single child cost a lot.
Name: PG
Country: India
 apart from all this that has been discussed when you quit a job and stay at home..the idea of doing something and still looking after your baby keeps pricking all the time and u want to prove your worth to yourself....how to manage that feeling of worthlessness any ideas?
Name: Arati Rahane
Country: india
 this article speaks the minds of many women who strive to struggle each day to make a success of their lives. i believe and hope that there are many of us stay at home moms who will be able to do all this and much more. this forum is indeed a boon to me as one gets to know more about people and their approach to life. its heartening to know that a dilemma exists whenever a mom undertakes a new responsibility (other than kids) but a practical approach to resolve issues will sail you thru such trials. and yes luckly children grow up to be more independent.
Name: Harsha
Country: india
 absolutely true ! a true reflection of the minds of many moms like us.
Name: SWATI
Country: india
 perfect reflection of my mind. i felt as if words are coming out of my mouth. very true. without any solution for this damn thing can only nod and agree with u.
Name: Usha
Country: india
 very true. a perfect reflection of mothers who rejoined after a break
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