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Name: Usha
Country: India
 Thanks for a nice article encouraging working mothers. I have been working in IT for last 7 years and I have a daughter who is 1.5 years old. I hardly took a break of 5 months after my delivery, but when I think of the fact that I have been missing to see all my daughter’s activities really makes me feel miserable. Particularly when she is down with fever, leaving her and going to office is such a pain. However, at the same time the thought that the pain I am going through is also for my daughter’s better quality of life in future keeps me motivated.
Name: Usha
Country: India
 Thanks for a nice article encouraging working mothers. I have been working in IT for last 7 years and I have a daughter who is 1.5 years old. I hardly took a break of 5 months after my delivery, but when I think of the fact that I have been missing to see all my daughter’s activities really makes me feel miserable. Particularly when she is down with fever, leaving her and going to office is such a pain. However, at the same time the thought that the pain I am going through is also for my daughter’s better quality of life in future keeps me motivated.
Name: Pallavi
Country: India
 A year back, I was busy with demanding career, a mother of two. didnt have time to hang out to find a guy!! .Rather than settle for being at home alone, going through bad times..i thought of a companion to accompany me for lunch/dinner/theater, .and spend time at my place. I had voices inside ”nice girls don’t do that” and worse, I didnt want to be " labelled and judged”. I found some ads online. and messaged their mobile. I asked them all sorts of questions about how it would work. I didn’t feel confident enough to have those sorts of conversations, so i skipped and arranged to come to my place. The experience ranged from ”an intellectual conversation over coffee/dinner”, to ”ground-breaking makin love ” . They made me feel good about my choices, gave me confidence that if this is something i wanted to do, im allowed to. It wasnt all about x, but was about making me feel special. I could safely extend my boundaries, doing ”something for myself” after working full-time, raising children, etc. I think women want to do this, but they’re like me, it might take u six months thinking about it before u do. I was hesitant to tell anyone abt it, as in reality women tend not to talk about their needs. I would have rather gone without love/x than face the fear of asking for it from a stranger. Women ”still think it’s not allowed. I thought i will share some of the cute guys here, to help chennai women find the right guys.. eit-s icx-ninee-five -eit-four-six- sevn-three-thr e(Raghu) nine e-zeroo-too-fi v-gour-one-nine-four-six-too (sam) eit-sicx-nin-five-nine -sicx-foor-too-seven-eit (karthik). They did travel to my place(they have their place too) and made my time memorable. Clean , DD free , working IT professionals , globe trotters, who just freelance. and engage in safe activities like conversations , massge, and things, that you like the most. I sent a short SMS as 'Hi', i guess they understood and took it from there. Have a good time
Name: Ridhima Kamath
Country: India
 I do not agree it is easy to chose between both! As a young mom, career was important to me, but my son was not an option.. I had to take al the help from my family, friends, even collegues. Luckily i had all des wonderful people to help me... If someone could tell me wat would b the ideal time to get back to work, i would be glad. cos i got back to work realy early.. and i have this immense guilt of leaving my son and getting abck to work. Even though i go back home everday for lunch.... i still feel guilty.
Name: Ridhima Kamath
Country: India
 I do not agree it is easy to chose between both! As a young mom, career was important to me, but my son was not an option.. I had to take al the help from my family, friends, even collegues. Luckily i had all des wonderful people to help me... If someone could tell me wat would b the ideal time to get back to work, i would be glad. cos i got back to work realy early.. and i have this immense guilt of leaving my son and getting abck to work. Even though i go back home everday for lunch.... i still feel guilty.
Name: Nisha
Country: India
 Thanks for the article. I really wonder why it has to be Career OR kids, why it cannot be Career AND kids. I worked for 6 years in IT and know from last 3 years I am at home taking care of my sweet daughter. But I strongly want to work. I want to manage both. For those who have daughters, u all want them to shine bright in there careers right, and what for? One day to give up everything to raise kids? My mother was a working lady, I always wanted to be like her and I want my daughter to feel the same for me. My mom was a principal of a school, she is my roll model. Being a kid I was crazy about everything she used to do, the way she used to dress up for school, her big cabin, and the way she used to handle parents, staff, and the way she used to make ways in bad situations. I agree my mom’s job was not as time expensive as my job was. I know it’s extremely difficult but as this article says it’s not bad to be a working mom. I want to concentrate on ways to achieve this than listing out on the difficulties.
Name: priyaanand
Country: usa
 this article is totally focussing only on working.when you work you can make money ofcourse its true but you are missing all your child's development for eg.,crawling,sitting, feeding,etc.,etc.,nowhere you can get it back.once the child milestone development you miss forever you can't get it back but consider of money you can make money whenever you feel like after they are grownup. child may expect lots and lots of affection,hugs,kisses from you but if you go to work they miss all those and they cannot ask for it
Name: sapna pahwa
Country: india
 yes priya i agree with u. the article does seem to be encouraging women to work. but it also says that although children dont lose that much when u work, u as a mother do lose out the important moments.. see the last para.
Name: savs
Country: india
 i do not agree with the article. motherhood has to be experienced in totality to be a fulfilling experience.a child whose mother is a homemaker has a healthier attitude to life than one who is brought up by an ayah or is a latchkey child. quality time is a defination coined by working mothers to silence their guilty conscience. do they expect their children to fall sick, get hurt etc. only during the quality time? a mother's place at home and society is incomparable. 'matru devo bhava' was coined to emphasise the supreme importance of motherhood in our society. i willingly sacrificed my career to bring up my two kids and i have n ot regretted it even once in the last 15 years. when i see my children growing up happy, healthy,intelligent,well adjusted and responsible human beings my happiness is complete. touchwood.
Name: Smitha
Country: india
 this is still a debatable issue.a balance can be maintained if working hours are fixed and enough help is available. but if working hours stretch and are very demanding , it becomes a nightmare, which affects the child and mother
Name: mother
Country: India
 i do not agree with the article.either you are a career woman or a homemaker.if you try to balance both in a cosmopolitan city of today's time, you are neither.you are only fooling yourself if you say you are giving quality time to your kids, b'coz after 10 - 12 hrs of work, what time or quality time can you give to your kids? i totally agree with smartmom.
Name: Rohini R
Country: India
 i totally agree with the article. i think one can balance between work & home. i myself have working mom still i feel my childhood was best. i am a good, educated human being. my mother is a doctor. now i am a working mom but my child is very much attached to me.
Name: Kiran
Country: India
 the article sounds good to read but practically i dont think it is possible u have mentioned about family and husband support do we really get that???? u should give more input on this. thx
Name: Aditi
Country: India
 i am residing in mumbai, my parents / in laws are in delhi. i am due in oct. i am being working from last 6 yrs and want to continue working. but i have a query where do leave my child who would be just 4-5 months old when i join back. i have no family support where i an leave my child (with aaya).
Name: rupal
Country: India
 hi , i have the same problem. i m a computer faculty amd i m enjoying it too. m doing this job as a passion but it has the bad effercts on my son as i m not being able to give him proper time. i stay in joint family and have to be in kitchen only once i come from work. then i thought of quitting the job bcaz i was getting migrane attcks bcaz of exertion. now i am happy bcaz i have only kitchen part to take care of and my son to take care of.i can balance and after reading the second article i feel i have taken a right decision. i had two choices either to make money or be with my son in his entering the teen age . i know both r not possible . i feel really good reading this article as it says a decision can be right or wrong as per your problems
Name: darshini
Country: India
 managing both home and work is really very very difficult.. i worked as a it professional and was earning more than my hubby in chennai.. now i resigned and i am happy to take care of my baby, but my hubby is forcing me to work again.. we could manage with the money he earns, but now i am forced to work.. unless the mentality of men change, it is really very difficult for ladies.. traveling and work alone will take more than 12 hrs a day..
Name: Namita
Country: India
 the idea of leaving work for some initial years and then joining back sounds good. but is that only a theoretical concept... ever tried searching a job after long break....i have...and the men interviewing out there treat you, why at all are you back...better go back home you are not capable enough for the corpprate world.
Name: tony S
Country: india
 this article emphasises more on a woman to work than stay at home. i think in that way it is incomplete. pros and cons of both a working mother and stay at home mom should be discussed. nowadays domestic help is also not so easily available. so please give us more knowledge and info in detail. thx
Name: smartmom
Country: india
 i feel..first set up yr family for the 10 yrs after marriage..so that the kids r all well settled and then start working everyone adjusts well and the kids r not so demanding...its worth the sacrifice!!!!!!!!!!
Name: Usha Pavan
Country: india
 yes, i agree with everything that is given in the article. but to be able to do justice to work and family, it needs very high energy levels and demands lot of discipline.
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