Sometimes life takes such a turn that one may have to cope with loss of a spouse. In such cases the remaining spouse has to play the role of the mother and father. The child development may get affected if he does not create conducive environment. How can you make a difference in your child’s life as a single parent? Read on.
The child’s development is directly associated with the environment that he is growing up in. when he grows up with a single parent
, the mom or the dad is solely responsible for ensuring that the child’s emotional needs are met and he feels completely comfortable. Here are a few tips on how you can ensure that the child’s development takes a positive turn even in the unfortunate situation of single parenthood.
Accept your Status and Learn to Believe That it is a Great Thing
This obviously does not mean that it is very fortunate to be a single parent. But when you lose your spouse, it is very important that you accept the fact that you do not have your support system anymore. The earlier you do it, the better it is for sorting things out in your life and the child as well. You are now destined to fulfill a responsibility and you should value the fact that you will raise the kid just as you would want to.
In this situation it requires rediscovering and redefining your family life and the associated roles and responsibilities. Further it needs to be duly noted that you must retreat into becoming a loner and live in isolation. Get in touch with self-help groups and other related organisations and communities of like-minded people and share the responsibilities of your child’s development.
Accept the Fact that Life Goes On
Despite of every unfortunate event, there is nothing that stops life. It goes on; so work on building connections and closeness with people around you. As you build relationships, you will feel better and your self-esteem will grow. This will have a positive impact on your children as they will learn that are things to look forward to and mourning is not the only thing in life. For the child to develop all his faculties it is important that he feels relaxed and comfortable in his environment; he needs to enjoy his life.
Be Teeming with Confidence
Parents are the role models for the child. When you are single parent, the entire focus of your child will be on you and he will learn from you on how he should behave, even if this is done unconsciously. This means that your attitude will brush on to your child. If you display any sign of powerlessness, the child will feel insecure and this is sure to have a negative impact on his development. Make sure that the child does not feel that it is an incomplete family; rather help him to consider it as a new family unit which has the fond memory of the deceased parent.
Always be Involved with Your Child and be Accessible
Always be there for your child when she or he needs you. Spend quality time with your child and make her or him feel special, loved and cared for. Take care of all the aspects of family life and the child will also learn to become responsible as he closely observes you. Share your feelings and emotions with your kid and this will make him feel important and that, his opinion is also valued. The confidence with which you cruise through the rough times, will help your child learn that assuming responsibility is a great thing and your intensity and honesty will be admired by him and he will also learn to imbibe the same qualities within him self.
Think from the Child’s Perspective
This is a great way to resolve arguments, if you are having one with your kid. It will help you assess the situation from his point of view and help you take decisions that are positive and fair. At the same time, if you are looking forward to a new relationship, you should keep the child in the loop so that it does not come as a rude shock to him. Further he will learn to understand that moving on a part of life and this necessarily does not mean that the deceased is forgotten. It will help the child develop a broader, accommodative and practical outlook.