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Hi dear ladies.I am in a helpless situation and I am in need of genuine advice from u ppl which could me out...pl bear with my long mail.
I am married for 5 years with 4 year old girl. I am working in an IT company with a pretty good salary. My problem is also working in an IT company. The problem lies in him. He is not all interested in me at any cost. Eventhough he loves me and take cares of me and my daughter, he is not all interested in physical relationship.
we had a argument in this n number of times but no improvement.I dnt even remember when we were together. he is only keen in earning money and we have some loans and he is worried abt this..this is the reason he gives me for avoiding it. I dont see any reasonable point in this. dnt the ppl having debts and with money problems lead a happy sexual life...

i had made many sacrifices marrying him.. ihave pledged my jewels for some money problems..i dnt even go to my parents place and stay there along with my kid...my only work as a wife for him is earn money for him and give my debit card to him and in return i dont get any happiness from him..is this a life?? he doesnt even kiss me..we just live a life for my daughter' s sake...sometime my mind is wandering to go for an EMA but when i think of my daughter and my parents and in laws...i leave this matter there itself... but in the other cases he buys me whatever I ask for (but i dnt ask for expensive ones..that is a differnt issue)...but do i expect this??
I have tried many ways to be smooth with him(i hope u understand) but it ends up in a total mess..nothing happened till nw...dnt know wat to do..pl advice dear ladies.... Sammy replied. Hi, Sangeetha
well there must be some kind of communication gap between u and and ur husband, may be the standard of earning between u both, try to resolve ur problem by talking, dnt go for EMA, talk, giving debit card is not solving ur problem, make him feel like that. Presto replied. goin fr a EMA is nt a soltion bt a trouble inveiter thought. rule it out. It looks like he is too frsutrated wid all dis debt n all, jst tlk to him, admire him in terms of his looks, seduce him if possible at the righ time may b, ask him y is he punishing u lyk dis, tel him tht u dnt need nythng else bt his love... beg him, ask him tel himur problem and do evry thng but nt get in to an argument.

Try this Also:- try appciating smothr guy and tel him tht \" he is so nice n handsome, n say tht u r better thn him bt \" I dnt know why u dnt love me nymore\" \" u were nt lyk dis\" V replied. Hi Sangeetha, thats a difficult situation to be in and I sympathise with your situation. It sounds like he is very stressed and that is why he is not interested at the moment. It is not because of you so dont take it personally. You cant shout at him to do this or trick him into it. I think you should help him, talk to him gently, find out what he is so worried about and then genuinely try to help him. For example, if he is so worried about debt, maybe you can offer to cut some household expenses and pay some of your salary every month towards paying off your debt. Then you can calculate exactly how big the debts are and how long it will take to pay it off. If you work as a team (and it has to be through a genuine desire to help him, not because you want to trick him into having sex), then I think you guys will naturally grow closer after some time and you will be much happier. saju replied. dear Sangeetha,
I vl teach you 100s of ways to make your man dig you 5 times in one night.mail me in my rediffmail.is is mailme.findme5 sangeetha replied. a small typo error in the above mail...my problem is with my husband. pl advice dear ladies....