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2011-04-18

Name: PT Hi everyone I am a regular reader of this forum.
Please help me solve my problems anyone.
My husband does not understand me.We have been married for 4 years now, he loves me but he thinks I am a kid. He talks to me like he would talk to a kid.We would never have an adult conversation. He never wants to discuss his expectations of me or how he thinks I should dress up or how I should look.
We have never ever had romantic conversation, which I would love to do with him. If I tell him stop talking with me like a kid he would just stop talking to me.
He does not want to give any suggestions to me about what he thinks I should do or even when he thinks I am doing something wrong.
As a result I have started comparing him with other girl' s husbands and feel bad about that.
I am losing feelings for him now, I spoke with him about this but he just does not seem to understand any part of it.
Are all men like that? Is there anyone who can suggest some tricks I can use with him so I can see some change in him?
Guys want help soon, I am so frustrated, I cannot stop comparing him with others which even depresses me further.

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Hi everyone I am a regular reader of this forum.
Please help me solve my problems anyone.
My husband does not understand me.We have been married for 4 years now, he loves me but he thinks I am a kid. He talks to me like he would talk to a kid.We would never have an adult conversation. He never wants to discuss his expectations of me or how he thinks I should dress up or how I should look.
We have never ever had romantic conversation, which I would love to do with him. If I tell him stop talking with me like a kid he would just stop talking to me.
He does not want to give any suggestions to me about what he thinks I should do or even when he thinks I am doing something wrong.
As a result I have started comparing him with other girl' s husbands and feel bad about that.
I am losing feelings for him now, I spoke with him about this but he just does not seem to understand any part of it.
Are all men like that? Is there anyone who can suggest some tricks I can use with him so I can see some change in him?
Guys want help soon, I am so frustrated, I cannot stop comparing him with others which even depresses me further. anu replied. hi dear,
i can understand ur prblm, becauses my hubby is almost like him, neither he talks nor shows expectation, sometime i feel he is selfish, even i m losing my feelings for him, i m just living my life with him because of my kids kk replied. jab who sone jayege use phele tum sirf thin cotton kapda phena jese ko sab kuch dekhta hoga , phir dekho hota hai kiya
swati replied. May be you can do some work which requires responsibility...like looking after your bank account or other financial things...you can show him that you are big enough to hold the responsibilities.. Priya replied. god forbid...but its possible, he may be having an extra marital affair.
even if it isn' t...try talking to him directly. tell him ur marriage is suffocating him. Priya replied. Hi PT
Dont expect.
Start urself. strike a conversation about ur dress..make-up...looks etc. on ur own.
Ask 4 his suggestions. Dig into him about his office work..collegues etc.
Just try super-imposing urself on him.

2012-07-29

Name: anu
Subject:

even i m facing so many prblm wd my hubby

hi dear,
i can understand ur prblm, becauses my hubby is almost like him, neither he talks nor shows expectation, sometime i feel he is selfish, even i m losing my feelings for him, i m just living my life with him because of my kids

2012-05-23

Name: kk
Subject:

solve ur problem

jab who sone jayege use phele tum sirf thin cotton kapda phena jese ko sab kuch dekhta hoga , phir dekho hota hai kiya

2011-09-08

Name: swati
Subject:

responsibility

May be you can do some work which requires responsibility...like looking after your bank account or other financial things...you can show him that you are big enough to hold the responsibilities..

2011-05-18

Name: Priya
Subject:

EMA

god forbid...but its possible, he may be having an extra marital affair.
even if it isn' t...try talking to him directly. tell him ur marriage is suffocating him.

2011-04-22

Name: Priya
Subject:

may be this can help

Hi PT
Dont expect.
Start urself. strike a conversation about ur dress..make-up...looks etc. on ur own.
Ask 4 his suggestions. Dig into him about his office work..collegues etc.
Just try super-imposing urself on him.

2011-05-16

Name: PT
Subject:

help with husband´ s thinking

I have tried that too. It doesn´ t work for long. It requires real effort by me to have him comment on something I do. If we discuss about it he says its not in my nature..
I feel so jealous when somebody´ s husband helps them select clothes, shoes and help them in malls. He is just not interested in anything.
Sometimes when I am in mood of sex(which I am always) he just turns me down. He is rarely interested in sex and when sometimes he makes an attempt then I don´ t know what to do whether in revenge to turn him down or just go with him because only sometimes he is in mood.
How can I have him be in mood of lovemaking atleast at weekends(I have tried to dress up in lingeries too but when he is sleepy it doesn´ t work with him).
How can I have him do something special for me?
How can I have him behave with me like an adult?
Suggestions required fast.

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