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Hi,
I have been married for the last 6 years. In the beginning years my in laws were quite well mannered towards me. But along the years their behavior has become poor to worse. The first time I was shocked by my mother in law' s behavior was when we had booked our new apartment. After the registration of the flat we called her the next day and she started abusing my husband that why was she not the first person to be informed about the home registration (she thought that e had informed my parents before her). Ok now she was very difficult to converse in phone. This time my in laws came down to my place to help me during my pregnancy. Before letting us know they cut their tickets without informing my parents as well. They never talk properly with my parents, they are always rude to them and instead tell their son that my parents are not cultured. This time after my pregnancy I was very ill and had to undergo IV, still my MIL was most insensitive and fought with me that on a particular day she was sad and why I did not prepare egg curry for her as she had already boiled the eggs, after a few days I became very ill and was admitted to hospital. My parents had to come to take care of me and the baby, instead of being thankful to them she accused us of sending them to her daughter' s house. Oh to add to my misery my sister in law stay very close to our place. My SIL, is very cunning and after me getting well and visiting their place to meet my in laws and refresh they started fighting with my husband and fought me showing photos which we had taken during my bab shower ceremony saying that I had eaten sweets as seen in the photo and then had said that they did not treat me to sweets. The main problem is their is lots of fight in the house due to very miniscule reasons. Even after returning to heir home town they complained about my parents to their son. I am tired of such misunderstanding and my husband constantly trying to please his parents and insult me. Please help me out as to how to deal with them. We are planning a trip to their place but am not able to decide weather to agree or not fearing another fight. Please suggest me ways to tackle such insecure and controlling MIL and SIL. Smitha replied. hi Devleena,

I understand your problem, i too underwent similar problems initially ans also found that this is very typical problem faced by all women. Please dont worry on these problems and dont ever try to solve them, as they will get more complicated. You have a wonderful baby in hand and its your responsibility for the upbring. concentrate on how best you can bring up your child, todays kids are very sharp and should be given exposure to many things. Just forget your worries, as and when the problem arises face it and cool down and let that thing go out of your mind. If you carry it for long it will spoil your relation with husband too. If he complains say OK, and ignore these problems.

Life is very short, enjoy every moment,
Follow the rule dont worry be happy.