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hello,
i am kavita of 30 years old lady having one baby girl and wish to get one
baby boy... i read about Amniocentesis test which tell about gender of
baby too .. i want to get this test before 6 week means 1 and half
month... because if gender test is negative means baby girl so i will
prefer abortion with using pills not by any other method of abortion....
so pls suggest me can it possible to know about baby gender before 2
months.... actually if result is not with me so i want abort my baby by
pills not by the abortion coz it is very pain full......pls help me
asap..............thxs in advance
Sheetal replied. Dear Kavita congrates on your second pregnancy. yes it is true that outside world is cruel, but as a mother do you think that aborting your child is right?
if yes it is fully your decision. i am also a mother of a baby boy & infact i wanted a baby GIRL but i am happy with my sweety. i have decided that i will surely take a second chance whatever it may be if it is a boy again will surely adopt a Baby GIRL. you know what there is a famous saying A BOY IS BOY TILL HE GETS A WIFE BUT A DAUGHTER IS ALWAYS A DAUGHTER TILL THE END OF THE LIFE.rest is upto you whether a boy or a girl both will be known as Kavitas children. All the best. Hema replied. In my view people like Kavita are the cause of the dismal sex ratio in certain parts of the country, where female foeticide and infanticide are just routine, so much so that Kavita does not even realize that there is something wrong in her thoughts or those around her who think similarly.

Unfortunately Kavita is endowed with a pair of ovaries an womb and a vagina to be lent to her H to produce an offspring, but she is far from being bestowed with a head/brain that deserves to be called that of a human.

I am not expecting Kavita to understand what Priya and I are writing over here, but I invite those who think like us to kindly come forward and voice our protests against this forum being abused in favour of foeticide and infanticide and propagate Khap Panchayets and Talibanistic views. Mel replied. Hi Kavita,
You' ve posted your question on a board. You will get feedback about it. Some may be to your liking, some may not. Priya is speaking her feelings. She is not a frog in the well. She is speaking from her conscience.

I understand that you want to have one girl and one boy. But, if you are pregnant with a second girl, aborting her is not right. There is no such thing that there is nothing before one month. It' s still a life, Kavita. And you' re stopping her from coming into this world because she is female. And that is what is hurting people. What if you were the second girl of your parents, and they aborted you ? You wouldn' t have been here today.

You also said that so many women are doing it. Just because they are doing it, doesn' t make it right. Secondly, if you are in India, sex determination is not only wrong, it is illegal.

About your question, I' m not sure about Aminocentesis test. But, from my experience, at 6 months only an invasive test yields results, and then, too, you can only see the sac. I don' t know if you can tell baby' s gender so early. Anyway, it' s your life and your choice. And your little unborn baby doesn' t have that choice. He / she is dependent on your choice of bringing him into the world, or snuffing out her life.

In my religion, it' s a sin. Why not just adopt a boy ? Additionally, there' s a lot of material on how to enourage y sperm in order to increase chances of a male baby. Better do something like that, instead of blindly becoming pregnant and then killing the baby. Priya replied. What nonsense is this! Are you a woman or an animal? Even Animals are better, they will not kill their children as per the gender. Its better you dont have another child.