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hi,
i m 29 years old lady with one child ...i got married in 2005..i am very very happy with my life . my husband is very loving AND CARING NATURE ..INFACT WHAN I BECOME SICK HE NEVER ALLOW ME TO GO IN TO THE KITCHEN AND DO EACH AND EVERY WORK OVER THERE he cared me lot if i told to bring anything at night he always ready to bring... but my hubby doesnot like to do intercourse.never get much excited ..after birth of my baby we do only app.three time intercourse in a 3 months .hence we dont hv any kind of plm..... we like other activity ofsexual plesure but not intercourse.. as we know.. men always hv interest to get more love in comparison to ladies.. but why my husband dont like to do intercourse..he hv little pain in his back coz of chair sitting work ...may be due to this he dont like to do.as he dont hv any kind of tension ,anexity ,plm etc..when i ask him why u dont like to do so he replied.. i dont like it just change urselves ...be practical it is a time to grow up ....dont think like a typical women etc.....he says only i love u fm my bottom of my heart ..i dont like phisycal love....soo plsssss can any 1 tell me that there r any more men who do the same or only i m suffering ..... Manoj replied. i can give solutions to this ,it is not a big problem,doing sex after delivery in some homes only,in my case intercouse after delivery is as same as we did before i think now it is daily you have to attract by wearing saree below your naval his favourite colours seeing erotic with him together try to motivate him and mail manojpvr i will give you more instructions to attract him sarika replied. heyy ruchika

my story goes smiliar to u ,married 29 with a child ,lack of love making...but now our relation has improved a lot.this is a common problem with many women after 3-4 yrs of marriage.my husbands is exactly the same u define about ur husband.earlirer he was the one who used to long for love making ,after 2 yrs of wedding n a child he completely lost interest,ofcourse thr are reasons like his concentration towards career ,personal conflicts,my defiguring due to pregnancy etc etc,i used argue a lot tht he has no love towards me now ,n inturn it lead to more physical distance.
ok now let me suggest u something,dont ask him for lovemaking ,as saina said keep distance n see the change,groom urself ,cook him good food,dress neatly keep peaceful atmosphere at home .10-15 min on bed is a gud time i feel,remember male like females who r not easy to bring n bed(hope u understand)keep patience,n u will njoy the fruit.
all the best
saina replied. hi,
ruchika this is for sure that your husband is loving towards you according to your words.but i want to ask you that do you tell your husband to perform first or he initial first.if my dear you do the initiating process to have then please STOP IT RIGHT AWAY BEFORE ITS TOO LATE.give your husband time and dont force him too much on physical acitivity.if you get some urges use self satisfaction processes dont depend on your hubby too much.the best way is to attract is to avoid.see it yourself if there is sight change in his behaviou then good and if the time goes beyond 2months then kindly talk about this with your husband in detail so that it can be helpful for you to understand him.please its request to have open thoughts between you to solve the problem.hope my suggetion will uit you.
NO PROBLEM IS BIG UNTILL WE MAKE IT A BIG PROBLEM.ALL THE BEST I KNOW EVERYTHING WILL BE FINE. rony replied. ruchika,
i have read similar problems so many times in problems pages and i will not say that it is common but it is with somay people.
reason behind this may be , i am not sure but as far as i understand is that your hubby has early ejeculation problem.
you informed that he likes other activity of sexual pleasure but not intercourse it is beacuse when he was doing other activity , that time he was avoiding the rubbing or touch to his tool . so he is able to do other activity . you can very well check this . when he was doing other activities with you that time you also rub his tool and see after how much time he ejeculates . i think he will not allow you to touch immediately when you start the physical love.
i can explain you in better way but not in this forum because i dont want to make ------------
you may contack me at ronyfandu @ yahoo . co . in
this is not a big problem , i will definately inform the solution
first you check what i said and than reply me in my e mail

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