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Hi ppl out there,
I need help for dealing with my Bro' s wife who had been toruring our entire family since the day she en5ered our family.

Her father has political connections n he keeps threatning my family that he wud send our entire family in jail in fake dowry case if his daughter doesn' t feel comfortable in family or leaves the house..Not just that this gal also keeps toruring my bro and asks him to fulfill her unreasonable demands else she threatens to leave the house. She has done this a lot many times in last few months and my dad n mom have to plead in front of her not to create drama on road.
Our is a upper middle class family n my parents are very image concious. Becatse of all this drama that is happening every now n then in my family my mom has started losing her health. Doctor says she has multiple health problems now and she needs ample rest and peacse which obviously she cannot get in these circumstances.
Please suggest us some way to get rid of this problem SAI replied. Its sad to know this, if u wanna prove she is harassing all u can make a video or switch on just the audio recording of her verbal abuses. Have some evidences and witnesses of her mis deeds, use wen reqd. good luck anonymus replied. Hi Ria,
I knwow what u r going through. Have gone thru the same situation. In our case my sil not only played dirty she made sure all that we had was transferred to her name and she made my old mother and younger brother who is of marriagableage kicked out of the house. We didn' t have a father, so thought we were helpless but after reading your message i realise these kind of women can make life miserable of anyone and everyone.As they say in any given situation its either fight or flight situation, most of us take the flight option that is run away from the situation for the sake of image and emotions. In restrospect i feel we should have fought our way through.Trust me society is not bothered about us, we need to take care of ourselves.It might be a few months of ugly fights but sooner or later things will settle.These kind of women are very smart they know we will never go against them, so they play dirty playing on our emotions. If ur brother feels he wants to be in such a relationship request ur mother to let him stay separately that will really bring some peace in the house. I know he is the only son but if he wants to reamin in this marraige i don' t c a happy situation in a joint family.Intially it will be painful but with time things will settle.
I will write again am in a rush right now. bye take care
Anustup replied. Are you married? If yes, do you live separately from your parents?

Is your brother too behaves the same way as his wife? I believe it' s your brother' s position as her husband and your mother' s son has the most crucial role to play. If he is supportive to his wife, the best thing your family can do is to ask him to live separately. Otherwise your brother can take a stand against his wife and prune her behaviour. Else he can tell her, that he will have to go rent a house awahy from parents and that would not be the most convenient thing for her.

IS YOUR BROTHER WITH YOU???