Relationships  Discussion Forum

Hello Ladies
I have been reading many posts on this forum for past 4 years ,n also posted my issues sometimes.
Just wanted to share my opinions n experiences apart problems.
I have seen that most of the posts here are pertaining to women problems ,inlaws interference,husbands dishonesty,lack of attention n love from beloved husband etc etc.
Even I have gone through all these ,but I think almost all women have some r the other kind of problem.(men do not have any problems bcoz women don’t create any..to them,women just know to love them n their family more n more n more…)
I think we women must be wise enough n stop crying for all things happening n enjoy ourselves .Just look at our husbands though u fight r cry r do anything they just enjoy themselves as if nothing has happen,n we inturn cry at our heart that hez so insensitive.
Do whatever we want ,I know itz really hard about doing than just speaking,but trying is not a bad thing as well……
Coming to inlaws problems they are just some impossible creaturse on earth,however nice u try to be they never let u do that too,,as they are …………INLAWS.i think husband also shouldhave been called as husband in law (as we r together in law but not by soul n heart..there may be exceptions).so ladies just stop thinking of inlaws n problems from them n concentrate more on keeping urself n ur children happy bcoz howmuch ever u think n try thz no solution to these problems ,they keep arising one after the other.life is short n don’t waste it thinking n cribbing about those useless creatures.
I know itz very easy speaking such things ,but in reality w ecant do that..anywz just try..
Sacrifice is another weakness as well STRENGTH to womankind.do this scarifice for ur husband that for inlaws another for children…whole life is a basket of sacrifices for woman.but do u really get that value for ur sacrifice…I think itz a big NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO.then why sacrifice ??i know it gives some soul satisfaction,but still why do we hurt ourselves so much n do that sacrifice.
Well women just try being urself n enjoy ur lives thatz what I have learnt these days,I know itz hard to be like that but some sort of self satisfaction…just a space for myself……..I ME n MYSELF
ALL THE BEST
sarika replied. well sss ur lucky that ur husband loves u too ,n ur in gud relation with ur inlaws .all r not so lucky as u,inspite we being gud wives ,a better mother n a gud dil ,wat do get in return abuses,more pain n more turmoil....
love is just giving n not expecting itz gud to hear but not in practical.even machines need input like power to work,n afterall we r humans n the only input we expect is a little love n a little care.
to mukthaa
well said we must prove ourselves tough mukthaa replied. Hi Sarika
I think whatever u said was absolutely true by reading what u said gives me more confidence. but what i think we all should be doing is to just try to enjoy our lives and we must prove them wrong we should also show them that we are not very sensitive people and portray ourselves as tough people then they will think before challenging us sss replied. Hi Sarika,
Your post is well written and true.
Happiness is as we perceive things.If we perceive our self as victims,we are unhappy and frustrated.But if we know our value and dont compromise on our well being,we are happy.
So,what do we sacrifice?when i see my life,i dont feel like i am sacrificing something.i am living my life happily...there are problems that arises at times..but i dont feel like a victim or i dont feel that i am being used.and i wont even let others do that.I love my child,i love my husband.what ever i am doing for them cannot be counted as sacrifice at all...they also love me and do things for me.so its mutual.We all do our part...as far as in laws are concerned,i try and keep a good relation with them.i know its important.luckily my in laws are good people.i am not trying to say that all is well in life.there can be issues in between.but when i add and subtract,what remains is the fact that i cannot do without any of them in my life.i need them.
happy new year to all....
sss