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i am suffering fro depression from past several years only becoz of my mother inlaw.
im a victim of dowry harresment. but the problem is no one believe that my MIL is very cunning becoz in the society she is very gentle and soft spoken lady. every one think that i am very bad ........and she made this image..from the first day she tried to break my realationship with my husband and also she tried to break my relationship with my parents in very strategic way...after marriage i have to stay with my mil for six months without my husband.. she treated me like a servant but did not let any body know that i do all household work..even she did not pick her plates from dinning table...but when any guest or relatives came she pretends that i do not know any house hold work and do not do any thing even in front of my husband and brother in law... she always insulted and humilated my parents and made demand of things but in front of her both sons she denied her this action and i dont have any proof...she forced me to wear her old outdated cloths.. i was not allowed to call up my parents..she blamed me and and my parents for stealing a locket of her neclace which she has presented me in my engagement and later presented to my sister in law the same..... she blamed me to change my engagement ring which was artificial........1gm gold ring....at the time of my delivery she did not care me as result
i got infection, my body became stiff...i caught fever...she left me in this condition went back to her home town when my baby was only 20 days old... and blamed me for my worst condition.do u believe she did not touch my baby in these 20 days...
the list is very long..this is only a very small part of my story.. but my main problem is my husband keeps soft corner for his mother and thinks his mother is very innocent. i do not want to talk her..but my husband is forcing me to talk her on phone and maintain gud relationship....and this is the one and only reason of fighting between us...other wise my husband is good ...the most depressing thing for me is that i never back answerd my MIL or faught her even after wrong blame ..still my husband blames me for all this despute. He is not realizing that his mother is trying to spoil our marriage life..this is my arrange marriage not love... wat should i do? plz help.. i dont want divorce....
broken lady replied. hi sarika and prada,
thanks for consoling me..
i m realy broken in these five years. though i m qualified but i could not get the job.. i was very bright student and allrounder in my student life ..my career is completly spoiled ..in the 5 years of my mrrg i lived with my husband hardly 2 1/2 years rest of time i had to live either alone or with my cunning mil.. i m realy broken plz suggest me how i overcome from this depression..plz give some ideas to forget all these things and start my new life... prada replied. Dear friend,
Enough being too much obedient to your merciless MIL.It' s really of no good, listening to people who pretend and fake being good.Try building up your attitude.Express out your likes and dislikes,make your MIL listen to what you stand for at times,let her know that you are strong to face any situation,do not blindly accept what she commands,add your comments where and when required but in a smooter way.You need not raise a revolt in the house but show evryone that you go by your own ways.
Trust me,MILS always fear women of attitude and try to avoid such DILS.I was like you during my early years of marriage but it truly destroyed my self-esteem.And now I try take my stand when the time demands but I' m always polite in whatever I do.Take care of your baby and yourself. sarika replied. hai BL
Dont loose heart, ur story is similar to many stories on this forum.anywaz ur mil stays away from you so why worry baby.
just do as you like when ur alone n be obedient when ur mils around .dont fight with ur husband for ur mils sake as men never accept their moms to be wrong.just act as a good bahu infront of ur relatives n husband,rest time live ur life according to ur choice. to keep ur relation safe u need to do all things.never give a chance to ur il to spoil ur relation.be good outwards to her n husband.slowly ur husband will change n understand what is reality.n will definitely take ur side some day.when ur living alone thn watz the problem in calling ur parents.why do u want ur mil to c ur babay r take care
u alone r enough to show all that love to ur little one.