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hi all.. need some advice from u women out there..i met my husband when i was in the us for my studies. we dated for around 2 years and got married a year and a half back. initially in our relationship we had a lot of problems regarding his ex girlfriend. he used to hurt me a lot by secretly talkin to her and meeting her and all that. but i loved him so much that i just forgave him for everythign tht i had to go through. i come from an upper middle class family and he from a lower middle class. i knew his parents are not tht educated and not doing that great. but i knew tht my husband had the potential to grow in his career. Initailly he did not have a very good job. jus a mediocre software engineer job. we have been trough lot of dificult times financially but i stood with him and did my best to save money for ourselves. after 6 months of our mariage, my dad passed away in an accident and i had ot return to home country to look after my mother who was also severely injured in the accident.i am also th eonly child. so it has been more than a year now tht we are having a long distance marriage since i have to take care of my mother. but he shows absolutely no concern toward me and my mother. i have started feeling very lonely these days and he did not provide any type of emotional support when the accident happened. it was a very tough time i ihad to go through all alone and look after my mom. he keeps me hanging in between saying that things will work out. but i don see how or when. i have no idea until when he wants to live there in us, or when he plans to come back and live with me. i cannot take my mother there due to health reasons. recently he got a very good job and he makes me feel inferior saying tht i dont work. i don have a full time job but i have started a very small business of my own. i have started feeling inferior and insecure. he plans to spend all the money he earns on gettin his parents to the US but has not asked me once to go visit him for a while. he always ignores this topic when ever i bring it out. i feel very depressed and lonely.please help. Nidhi replied. Dear Frend,
I can understand how much it hurts when loved one starts behaving in such hurtful manner.That too you both had love marriage.
Did you hubby change after marriage or was he like that even before,only you didnt pay much attention to his behavior before getting married as you were so much in love with him.
I would suggest you to take his parents in your confidence totally. As they are also in India, you can visit them menawhile and try to explain the things to them.But be cautious,show that you care a lot for them and you love their son a lot so that they start believing in you and then if they ask their son to be with you, it will definitely work. If he loves his parents so much, he will have to listen to him. So, now change the strategy, and put a pressure on him thru his parents only.
I pray to god that your hubby and you come together again.

All the best.