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Hi Preeti,
This is very tricky dear. You cannot convience your husband to seperate from your in-laws. Because smart in-laws never behave the same way in front of your husband, the way the behave with you in his absence. You can only wait for the right moment, until your husband relises that they are not being good to you. Because if you tell him anything against his parents, he will see you as a bad person. Just be yourself and tackle them the same way, they behave you. If they become good infront of your husband, so you do the same. There is no other alternate. If your husband is deeply attached to his parents. He would rather leave you than leaving them. So, do not lose your patience. If you think they are good from their heart then try to win them with your love and affection. Some in-laws are good, but we fail to understand them. As I don' t know your exact situation, I can leave it to you to be the best judge.

Well, They are very bossy and interfering...they keep on interfering on any matter whether it is a matter of concern for them or not...my sons diet chart..( my FIL shouts at me for feeding him as per doctors instructions),even if i plan to go out with my husband, they keep on saying, why do you have to go, theres no need to do so, they dont let me meet my parents, I hardly get to see them once in a month for 1 day approx. 6 to 7 hrs. I cant go out on my own without their permission, they dont let me speak with my neighbours,,,etc,.etc...etc...etc...they just keep on taunting on each and every thing i do....my DH is well aware of that....he agrees that they are not right....byt he says he cant do anything about it...they will be what they are...just hear them from 1 ear and let it go off from the other....LET IT Be....thats his motto....it has been 4 years now....i can let it be now...i m sick and tired of them...Please help.....They just emotionally blackmail him to stay with them....my MIL had told me that i have destroyed their family life....i have been manipulating each and every ones mind and i dont have a right to be in that house....I had packed my bags at that very moment..but my husband was in office and he said she was angry wih something and she removed her frustration on me....he said to let it be.... I am tired of them...I told my parents and went off to them...he came there and he asked me to come back and said he cannot do anything about their nature just let it be....even my parents asked me to LET IT BE..... what do i do???? I never felt like a part of this family...they never discuss anything with me....PLease help....