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Hi All,

I had posted on the thread of \";help\"; - I asked my husband if my SIL could move in the same locality as we stay - what he said is they will move out once my SIL has a stable job - Right now she is earning $8/hr and works for 10 hr daily.

It has already been l year that they migrated and are living with us - My other SIL (who is here since 20 yrs) takes no responsibilities and neither finds a job for her or shows any kind of support. Its all on me and my husband. Moreover my IL's already stay with us

So right now eventough we are a newly married couple - there is no privacy and nothing that we two can do what we wish - as SIL's kids always want to accompany us - due to this reason even if I tell my husband to go out for dinner (just the 2 of us) he would decline

Any ideas/suggestions to tackle the situation................... - I already told my MIL to ask my SIL to move out but she has the same reply - she will move when she has a good job (but my SIL does not try to read or speak english - so finding a good job is tough)

lastly, if anyone knows a good place where she can find work - I am in central NJ. N replied. You could ask your SIL to move to an apartment then she could sublease a room and earn income too . But please check if it is legally possible to do it in NJ . Anju replied. How is yr sil's behaviour towards you?..is she helping you in house work??..or is she is nice with you??..i think if she is not kick her out of the house..show lot of anger with her when ever your husband is not around you..you know make her life misarable...you are owner of that house..i think u can do that..
if she is nice person, struggling in life to come up, than help her in education or carierwise, if she doesn't know english, than how about doing homeday care..i sure thier is very good demand for that in nj.tell her very clearly to go for evening school and work in day time..by thhe way where is her husband???.. Vera replied. I have a suggestion for you .
a)You can find an apartment for your SIL closer to her work place .
b)Then tell your MIL to move there to help her settle down .
c) If they say your Sil is not earning enough then you can financially compensate her as a loan .
Its not worth it to ruin your married life like this . These are precious times they never return .
AP replied. All this Family member who come from India they all think that they will stay with you forever. We have filed for my husbands brothers which they will come hear in 12years. But in-law are staying with us know. I keep telling them once they come hear they will only stay with us for couple month. then they need to find there own place. Does your SIL help with Money wise giving rent or food money.