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i am married female with kid..staying USA for 5 years..we have 6 years of marriage..everything is good even i started my further studies in feild of finance..my problem is whenever my husband chat with his friends (most of the time women) i am not feeling comfortable..always feel insecure ..i dont know why? he says i dont have trust on him..although he is man of commitment ..hold his word..but some past things of him (before marriage) lost my trust,,nowdays i am convencing myself whenever he is chatting..but after a time it breaks and again a fight..really i dont want all ..i have kid also i dont ewant such stupid things impact on my kid even i cant concentrate on studies..if i am telling to my husband why he keeps chaTTING even thoughh i dont like..his reply will be i amnot doing bad..I am telling him everything has limit ,,every morning u wake up and start chatting with same woman is not acceptable ..i feel ignore..can anyone help me out? really i need help i have very few time for my exam also..i dont want my life to waste is such satupid thing..but how to convience myself that whatever he is doing its ok? and that to everyday ? Mel replied. You are ABSOLUTELY JUSTIFIED. He cannot decide by himself what is right and what is wrong. If he wants to wake up and chat with women daily, then something is DEFINITELY wrong.

And yes, what women are these ? As Ecstasy asked... are they people he knows, or is he chatting with strange women ? And tell him that since having casual chats with people of the opposite sex on a daily basis is \" THE CORRECT THING TO DO\" since he is not doing anything wrong, that you would like to do this too. Tell him it' s interesting to you too. And that you are also planning to try it out. So, when he finished his chat and leaves for work, you can start your chatting. And tell him that you TOO are not doing anything wrong. Ask him to show you how to go about finding STRANGE men so that you can have a nice time, just like he does.

I' m sorry to say, but your husband is a despo. And he will definitely do something WRONG the first opportunity he gets. He' s just doing the groundwork for it. And since he hasn' t been lucky enough to get an opportunity, it must be his frustration speaking when he says, \" I' m not doing anything wrong\" . Ecstasy.Beauty replied. Hi Nikita,

I saw your post. I am a married man.
It is surprising. Please tell me the woman whom your hubby is chatting , is she colleage friend or on line friend?.

I think your hubby taking you as granted. It is not acceptable...Please have a discussion with him what made him to chat everyday also tell him if I chat with some man..how you feel...Is it acceptable to you?. Also, tell him...it is bothering you and ask him to try to come out of it. Also, if she is a colleage friend if they are chatting casual things...also in a day by day become serious relationship. Better to discuss with him and explain to him how you feel. Also, you showing love and care..may be you are neglecting him due to kids and exam...spend time with him and give him what ever he needs.

Also, since your exam is closer...you can concentrate on your exam and then you can handle the issue..it is not going to change drastically in few days..

all the best

be happy and focus on your life priorities like exam for immediate term and try to work on hubby immediately after your exam...dont combine both issue together...you can not do both perfectly.